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Simplest way to get yourself Happy Now

In this ‘new age’ we are told over and over again that maintaining positive thoughts is the best thing that we can do for ourselves. Now whether you believe in this whole New Age movement, this whole law of attraction bit, I hope that you do realize that a positive state of mind is a good thing no matter how you think about it.

You do not need to believe that thoughts create reality in order to realize that a positive state of mind will create a positive effect. If for example you are about to partake in any activity, if you engage in this activity with a positive state of mind, one that makes you feel confident and energetic, you will definitely realize better results. In other words you don’t need to maintain a positive state of mind just so that you can attract those things that you want metaphysically, a positive state of mind will also help you in the objective sense.

But how do you attain this positive state of mind? There seem to be an infinite number of exercises and ideas about how to do this. Most of them seem to be quite complicated if you really think about it; its usually this step by step formula where you are supposed to feel this, imagine that and make it all brighter or smaller or something. Sometimes these methodologies seem like a cooking recipe.
Well if I have not bored you completely and I have not scared you off with my proposition of another method for attaining a positive state of mind, then please let me give you an exercise that is incredibly simple and only requires one thing; the power of your focus and attention.

You see fundamentally all of these exercises really rely on this one principle; the principal of focus. If you’re able to maintain your attention focused on one positive thing no matter what, you will be able to maintain a positive attitude in just about any situation.

When I say focus, I do not mean stress or strain. If you stress or strain yourself you might actually hurt your body and perhaps even give yourself an ulcer. There’s a big difference between concentrated focus and physical effort. The body gets tired and too much tension can be quite detrimental to it, but the mind never tires and it is always going even when you are sleeping. The trick then is to use your mind to focus your attention and not your body.

An easy way to know if you’re doing this correctly, is to see if you are tense. If you are tense when you are trying to focus your attention on something then you are doing it wrong. Try to relax your body first and then focus your attention. Over time you will be able to focus your attention without the need to tense up your body as well, it is most important that you learn to do this properly.

Okay so now finally to my little exercise to help you stay positive in any situation. Well it’s as simple as this: focus on a word.

Let’s say for example that its gloomy day outside and you just want to get a little happier. Then all you need to do is just to focus on the word HAPPY. Just try and hold that word in your mind for as long as you can and you will notice instantly that the longer that you can focus on this one word, the happier that you will get. It will instantly begin to correlate with happy memories that you might have had in the past and with happy thoughts or goals that you might have about the future.
And that’s it, that’s the entire thing.

But the trick comes when you want to try and maintain your focus on that one word. If the power of your attention, if the strength of your focus, is not that good then your ability to maintain your attention on this one word will be quite difficult. Most people have difficulty maintaining their attention focused on a single item for a few seconds. If this is the case for you, then what you need to do is just keep practicing.

Practice is a simple thing, all you need to do is to bring your mind back to the one word that you want to focus on. For example as you try and focus your mind on the one word HAPPY, you might start thinking about what you’re going to cook later or about some responsibility that you have to take care of. What you need to do is to catch yourself mentally wandering off and refocus your mind on the word. Don’t get frustrated and just keep refocusing your mind on that one word.

It is possible to attain an incredibly powerful focus. But this takes time and I suggest that you do not get discouraged at first. Just try to increase the amount of time that you can focus on the one word that you have chosen. See if for 15 to 20 minutes you can focus more on the word that you have chosen and less on all the other stuff that keeps popping into your mind. Continue like this and see if there ever comes a point when you can actually think about that word for the entire 20 minutes!
If you feel confident, increase the length of time that you spend thinking about this one word.

With this incredibly simple exercise, you will be able to focus your mind to a great degree. If you’re able to maintain your focus on the one word that you have chosen long enough, then maintaining a positive state of mind will become quite easy for you. You will certainly have to work on the power of your focus and attention but having this strong power of focus and attention will benefit every aspect of your life. Think of it like exercising, a pleasurable exercise, that will give you so much that is worth every single bit of sweat that you lose doing it.

Love Yourself and Free Yourself from negativity

There are many things written about fixing your life. This entire site is devoted to self improvement and there are many methods that I outline that can greatly help you in all aspects of our shared reality.

While all of this material does aid in helping you deal with the difficulties that you might experience in life, there is one main aspect that is always overlooked. It is overlooked because it can be a very hard pill to swallow for most and the reality is that most people just aren’t willing to follow this methodology.

Why is it that most people will not follow this one methodology that would allow them to improve so many aspects of their life? It is because the entire world devotes most of its time to telling you that life is a certain way and to think otherwise is self delusion and egomania.

This most wonderful self-improvement tactic is very simple:
love yourself!

It is that simple but it is almost impossible to do for most. We are told over and over again that to love ourselves and to think of ourselves is selfish and self-centered. No matter what religion or theology that you care to study, you will almost always be told the same thing; that you are not the center of the universe and that you are here to fix something about yourself or worship something beyond yourself. In our Western society, we believe that we were born sinners and to think of ourselves, let alone love ourselves above all other things; well that is just out right sin.

Even if you are a highly logical person and an atheist, you will definitely not want to love yourself. Since science believes that we are just biological units existing in a mechanical universe, the idea that we are in some way important and worthy of love seems almost idiotic. And if you were to love yourself, what good would it do? Emotions and positive thoughts after all seem to have such little consequence in this reality.

But take a chance and do something completely rebellious, I use the word rebellious because of its connotations; love yourself. Practiced just loving yourself, accepting yourself or who you are now and no matter what you do for an entire month, just love yourself above all other things in the world. Contemplate how wonderful you are and how great it is to be here in this world and how lucky this world is to have you in it.

This does not mean that you have to love your family or your children any less. You will be surprised at the fact that by loving yourself more you will be able to love them more as well. Realize how lucky they are to have you in their lives, how you make their lives so much better in so many ways.

I dare you to sit around for 20 minutes and just love yourself completely. Send as much love as you can to ‘yourself’, and adore who you are right now. If you are able to do this then the next day I want you to do the same thing but this time while you are looking in the mirror. Will you be able to do this? Will you have the ability to just love yourself without judgment or recrimination?

Most people can’t do it. They can’t do it because they believe that they are unworthy of things. When they look at themselves or think of themselves they only see all the blunders that they made or how much it is that they need to improve. Try to fight this urge by just loving yourself and forgetting about all those little voices that tell you that you should not or could not love the one thing in your life that is the most important thing on Earth.

How terrible that must sound to some. To tell yourself that you are the most important thing on earth. Why do you believe that this is not so? Study this belief by asking yourself why you are feeling what you are feeling now. Ask yourself over and over again ‘why’, until you get down to the root of these feelings. The root of these feelings will be the belief or beliefs that you hold that make you think that you are not worthy of self-love.

When you discover what these beliefs are, change them because you deserve better. I have shown you in other articles how to change beliefs, use these techniques to change that negative belief right now. The most important beliefs that you hold are the beliefs about yourself and how worthy you are.

I dare you to love yourself. And if you take my dare you will find an incredible thing; that by just loving yourself and accepting who you are totally, you will overcome many of the problems that you think you now have.

 

  • Through love of self you will be able to find a better job, one that doesn’t make you suffer but that makes you feel good about what you’re doing.
  • Loving yourself will allow you to have the strength to be with those that love you as you should be loved and to stay away from those that would abuse you or use you in any way.
  • Loving yourself will create a positive attitude in your life that will naturally begin to change your ideas about what you deserve and these will naturally create a better future for you.
  • Loving yourself will allow you to feel good again.

Game to Re-discover your Inner Wisdom and Joy

Why is it that when we were children we seemed so far more understanding and wise? It is a common response, and in some ways true, that our simple joy really came from the fact that we were so mentally guileless at that age. That we did not know the horrors of the world and that we were literally naked babes upon the land.

This can explain many things about a child’s nature and a child’s vulnerability, but it does not explain the full extent of it. If you remember back, truly remember back to what it felt like when you were a child, you will remember that there was far more to it than just a simpleton’s mind. If you truly remember, you will realize the children seem to have a far greater connection to the world than adults do. Children seem to have this trusting connection and this greater understanding that we as adults seem to lose as we clog up our minds with the many facts that allow us to participate in this world.

Children have a natural type of identification that allows them to perceive the world in a far deeper and richer way than adults can. Why is it that children have such a rich connection while we as adults seem to be like aliens living in a foreign world?

The reason for this, I believe, is that we have lost our empathic connection to the earth and to all of the beings around us. Empathy is usually given a rather unfair definition; empathy is usually seen as this negative characteristic that is quite feminine and weak. This is highly incorrect, not to mention the fact that characterizing something as weak just because we perceive it as feminine is highly flawed indeed.

Empathy is neither feminine nor masculine. Empathy is a highly practical capability that can allow you to develop a sixth sense that can give you a great advantage. An empathic person can tell you what another person is feeling and thinking, they can have a sense about what is good and bad, and they can discover trouble or reward within any environment. Those that are empathic enough can sense profit or ruin and therefore have an advantage over those that have no empathy at all.

Many fear empathy because it is believed that those that are empathic will somehow lose themselves in their intuitions. It is seen as weak because in a world where we are taught to crush our enemies, it is never a good idea to be able to feel that crushing ourselves. But even in this, the definition of empathy is wrong; not that I wish to propagate the crushing of enemies per se, but it is wrong to think that you will be lost through your empathic visions. A skilled empath can feel others and the world around them but at the same time understand that he/she is a separate entity. True empathy does not mean being lost in the emotions or feelings of others, but it is the ability to understand the reality of the self and of the other at the same time.

So why is it that children seem to be such wise little people? Why is it that children seem to be continually happy and at one with their environment? The biggest reason for this is because they have not tainted their connection with the other and as a result are highly empathic beings. You can regain this connection, you can also have a life filled with joy; and all that you need to do is to learn to play like children do.

If you ever watch children playing, you will notice that they love to pretend. They will pretend that they are pirates or soldiers, they pretend that they live far into the future or that they are from the great past. What children are wonderful at is ‘discovering themselves outside of themselves.’

In order to develop your empathic abilities you must also do the same thing. You must use your imagination and playfully pretend that you are something or someone else. You could for example pretend that you are the same person that you are right now but that you are 100 years in the future, at exactly the same place where you are right now. Use your imagination now and try to imagine what it would be like to be at exactly the same place you are now but 100 years in the future.
Use your imagination to pretend that you are a parent, if you are not already one, and explore your feelings and how you would feel if this were the case. Imagine what it would be like to be an incredible genius that can solve all the problems of the world.

If you have ever watched children play, you will also notice that they like to pretend to be things that you might find quite repulsive. Children for example like to pretend that they are dead or that they are so old that they can barely move. You should do the same and extend your mind to pretensions that you might at first find quite difficult. Pretending what others would act like if you died is a wonderful children’s game that many kids play and perhaps you should too.
I know some of this might seem difficult but it’s a wonderful way to ‘discover yourself outside yourself’.

Also try to pretend that you are different objects or different things in the world; try to imagine that you are a lake and feel what it would be like to have people on you, swimming inside of you. Imagine that you are a rock or that you are a bird flying really high up in the sky. Explore your feelings while you’re doing this and discover in this way what it would feel like to be something completely different from yourself.

These simple games, done with a fun and playful spirit, can teach you a great deal about the people and the world around you. You might be very surprised at what you discover and I can guarantee you that if you pursue this game with an open spirit, you will find great wisdom inside yourself. By understanding the world through your empathic vision, you will quickly learn a better way to deal with everything around you.

Become the wind, the sunshine, and the trees. Discover in this way what it is to be what you truly are; a child of the earth and the stars. Children are never lonely, and they always seem to have fun wherever they go. You too can have this kind of joy, delight, and wisdom. Learn to play like you used to and re-discover the wisdom that you had forgotten.

The Top 8 Ways to Beat Stress

More and more people seem to be stressed out. The fast pace of our modern lives guarantees a more stressful existence. Here is a list of the top 8 ways to reduce stress. Use it as a quick list to help you cope and to help you find new ways to beat what has become a chronic illness for some.

Here are the top 8 ways to beat stress:

1. Manage time: make sure that you take stock of the amount of time that you have each day and that you try and prioritize objectives. A little day planner is a great way to plan tasks so that you stay on schedule and you don’t feel that you are getting overwhelmed by the world around you. I suggest that you don’t get too serious with your task planning; just a rough idea of what you have to do on the day so that you know you have enough time for everything. Too much planning and scheduling will make you feel trapped and this will increase your stress. Remember also to allocate time to having fun and for restful breaks.

2. Communicate better: This does not seem like a stress reliever but it is very important to make an effort to communicate better. Much of our stress comes from interpersonal relations, if you can communicate with friends, coworkers and family better, you will find that your stress level will go down quite a bit. Try reading.

3. Gain inner balance: This means that you should take the time to get to know who you really are. You have to learn to set your personal standards. You must learn how to say “no” gracefully and to have the courage to follow your own path. You gain inner balance by discovering who you are and in order to do that, you need to be able to have the time to be by yourself. In your little day planner, make sure that you schedule lots of alone time.

4. Learn to relax: Learning to relax is the key to beating stress. Stress is really the buildup of tension. I recommend you read ‘How to relax’.

5. Make time to relax: It is so very important that you always make time for yourself. If you don’t do this, you will soon stress out completely and you will get sick. Many relax by doing something that allows them to completely forget themselves. Hobbies, television or video games can be incredibly soothing as long as they are not pursued to excess.

6. Take time off: One of the great benefits of managing time is being able to see that you do have some time left over to take a vacation or a break. You should make sure that you always make time to take small breaks when you are working, and you should also plan to take longer breaks and vacations on a regular basis. You don’t have to take a trip somewhere, just take some time from your regular work to break routine and spend as many days as you can just having fun and doing what you like to do.

7. Develop an interest: A hobby is a great way to relax and beat stress. It allows you to focus on other things and if it means that you have to go out and socialize then all the better. Just remember to do something that you want to do and not something that you think that you need to do. Start a walking club; a fun relaxing walk will do anyone wonders.

8. Improve your diet: We are what we eat, so treat yourself well. Stay away from too much refined sugar. Reduce the coffee intake, as this will greatly help with relaxation and anxious feelings. Make sure you get your vitamins and minerals. A good way to do this is to try and get creative and find fun and novel dishes that you can try. Look through health cookbooks in the store and see if you can find a dish that looks good, then try and cook it. Do this often and you might find that eating healthy is not so hard.

Stress can be overcome. Beating stress means relaxing and having more fun.Think of the battle against stress as an opportunity to do all those things that everyone else is telling you not to do.

How to Become Happier Naturally by extending the happy moments

I think that most of us would agree that we would like to be happier. Being happy is a type of pleasure and as pleasure seeking beings, happiness satisfies our instinctual desires.  Any problem that arises from seeking happiness, tends to present itself because of a person’s insistence on being happy all the time.  While being happy all the time might sound good, it is the case that every individual needs to experience a wide range of emotion because each emotion has a purpose.  If you force happiness, trying to make yourself see good things in everything or make yourself smile when you don’t feel like smiling, you can create a repressive state where a buildup of negative (in this case, emotions that are not happy) emotions is present.

You can though quite naturally extend the amount of happiness that you feel.  This is done by extending those happy moments that you feel naturally.  You do this by focusing on those good emotions when you do have them; by being more aware of your emotional state and consciously extending the length of time of the positive emotions that you feel.

See if you can go through a large part of your day being totally aware of your emotional states.  This will require a certain amount of concentration on your part in that you will need to stay focused on yourself but at the same time be able to let yourself experience the world about you naturally.  This type of awareness does take some practice; the best way to go about it is to create a type of third person perspective where you are able to imaginatively look down on yourself and watch yourself experience things naturally.  Once you can develop this third person perspective, you can easily keep an eye, as it were, on your emotional state.

This is an incredibly powerful exercise and will teach you a great deal about yourself.  You will notice that you have a very wide emotional variance throughout your day and that your emotional states are affected by both internal and external stimulus.  Sometimes you will feel certain emotions because of something that you witness or are part of physically, and you will also notice that your emotional states are also greatly controlled by your subjective experience; what you think about throughout the day.

Once you become aware of your emotional states, become particularity aware of when you are feeling happy.  Paying close attention to when you are feeling happy, you will be able to discover what it is that is causing this happiness.  This happiness will teach you about you, it will allow you to discover what you consider to be good and pleasurable to you personally.  This personal discovery is priceless because it will tell you what you need to do more of in order to be happier.  For example, you might really enjoy looking at wild birds and as such it makes all the sense in the world for you should pursue any hobby or occupation that allows you to look at wild birds more often.  You might also discover that you are quite happy whenever you are thinking about a certain person or place.  It is even possible that you find yourself the to be far happier when you are looking at the world through a certain perspective. 
Through greater personal awareness, by being able to see your emotional states from a third person perspective, you will discover those things that cause you greater happiness.  You then expand your happiness by doing or thinking more of those things that bring you joy and satisfaction.  In this way, joy and happiness can quite easily be extended and your life can become far more rewarding.

You do not need to fake happiness.  It is actually the case that if you try to fake happiness, you will actually end up getting it’s opposite.  Happiness can only be developed through a natural amplification of those things that cause you happiness.  Happiness then essentially becomes what it truly is; an emotion that is meant to empower you and guide you towards greater personal fulfillment.

Using this same method, you can see that negative emotions(in this case emotions that you do not consider happy) are also empowering energetic impulses that can teach you about your personal reality.  Using the third person perspective, you can discover what is causing the negative emotion.  With this discovery you can make sure that you do not engage in activity or thoughts that extend this negativity.  Looked at in this way, negative emotions become what they truly are; a catalyst for personal understanding and change. All emotions are there to help you discover your personal beliefs.

To ‘fake it ‘til you make it’ might be a good way to get out of a slump in the short term but it can create many problems in the long term.  Forcing yourself to do anything that you are not feeling, is essentially trying to coerce your own nature.  Instead of trying to fit yourself into a mold of what others believe you should be, I suggest that next time you choose instead to experience your own nature naturally.  Become more aware and discover for yourself what it is that makes you happy, extend that happiness naturally by doing more of those things that bring you joy and less of those things that create negativity with an you.  You can be happier by just learning to extend those happy moments, without denying or suppressing your natural emotional reality.

 

 

 

 

Learn to Identify Stress for What it is

Stress is something that is becoming a bigger and bigger problem in our modern, fast-paced lives. Stress is an indicator that is letting us know that we are overwhelmed and overworked and that we need to take a break. The hyperactivity of the modern lifestyle increases the likelihood that you will experience stress because of its incredibly fast paced nature.

Our modern world has become the world of gadgets. We all have some kind of gadget, whether it’s a smart phone, a tablet of some kind, or a laptop. These gadgets are constantly feeding us information and keeping us up to date on scheduling, which have turned most modern life into a robotic existence. None of these gadgets are helping us to really cope with stress, if anything they tend to aggravate the situation even more.

Most people have even begun to consider stress to be an enemy. They think of stress as something that has to be fought off, as an inconvenience that must be beaten somehow. You must realize though that stress is actually an indicator, it is your body’s way of showing you that you need a break. When you ignore this indicator, your body must take more aggressive action to get you to relax and recuperate. It is therefore very important that you learn to identify the indicators of stress so that you are able to deal with this situation before it escalates.

Early indicators of stress are different for different people. Some people tend to feel stress as a type of bodily tension while others might see stress as a barrage of negative thoughts and feelings. What is most important is that you identify your own personal indicators so that you are able to deal with stress in a timely manner. Remember that stress is just your body trying to tell you that you need a break, if you do not identify these early indicators of stress, your body will take measures to get you to relax in a different way. When early stress indicators are ignored; some people get migraine headaches, others have a stomach upset, while others might be affected by a cold or the flu. What the body is doing here is that it’s taking matters into its own hands and is creating a situation where the body must stop what it’s doing and relax.

If you maintain a highly stressful life, where stress is something that you continually have to deal with, it is possible that your body can take more drastic measures to get you on the right path. Do realize though that these are not measures that are done behind your back as it were, or measures that you do not have any control over. If you would learn to listen to your early stress signals and question yourself as to why you are stressing out at the moment, you would discover why you are having a problem. Understanding why you are having these problems, you can then try to change your situation so that you can deal with it. If you ignore these problems and these early stress indicators, you will find different ways to deal with your situation.

All of this can be seen quite consciously by you if you’re willing to pay attention to yourself and how you are feeling. Nothing is ever hidden from us if we are willing to consciously experience our reality and to continually discover the reasons for all our feelings. If you consciously do not take responsibility for your stressed-out life, A different part of you, that you might even label as ‘subconscious’, will take over and make sure that you take the time to relax as you should.

It is very important that you become aware of your personal emotional life. You must begin to understand the early signals of stress. In this way you will be able to take conscious action and relieve that stress, which just means; Take a break!

Remember stress is just a body signal that is telling you that you need a break, that you need to take some time off and see things from a different perspective, or that you just need to let it all go for a while. If you become adept at identifying these early stress signals and act on them when they present themselves, you will have a happier, healthier, and far more successful life.

Worry is an Ally

Worry is a great drain of energy. Worrying about things makes us feel very bad and most of the stuff that we do worry about is unnecessary. I suppose that you would not believe me if I told you that worry is actually supposed to be an ally; that it should really be a helping hand that allows us to discover where we need to take action in order to change our circumstance for the better. If you are not willing or able to recognize the power of this ally, you must do everything in your power to lessen the dominance that worry has in your life. If you don’t, you will drain away the energy that should be used to take positive action.

You can eliminate most worry by figuring out what is important and not important. If you look at all the things in your life that worry you, you will find that many of the things that are causing you a lot of worry and pain are really not that important. It is advisable then that you study what is making you worry so that you are able to decide consciously whether this certain situation is really worth all that waste of energy.

It is the case that we also worry about things that are very improbable. You should always figure out whether something that is worrying you is really that likely to happen. When we worry about things and we say to ourselves that we are just worried and leave it at that, we tend to give up our power to control this worry. You must never just let yourself worry over nothing; that is exactly what you are doing when you are letting worry happen all by itself and you are not questioning what is making you worried and how likely that worrying situation really is. Next time that you worry about something, ask yourself how likely that situation is. Explore the situation and logically come to a conclusion as to how worried you should actually be. In this way you are able to eliminate your stress by realizing that most of the things that you worry about are quite unlikely, or at least not as severe as you might imagine.

If you run across certain worrying situations that have a kind of chronic mania to them, you must learn to let them go. For example there are situations that we worry about, that we might have some small or large reason to worry over, that we are powerless to change. In other words, it’s a situation that you have to learn to live with for the moment. When you face such a situation you must be able to let that worry go. You do this by knowing that you have studied this situation that is worrying you and that even though there’s nothing that you can do to stop this worry at the moment, you must be part of the situation for now. With this understanding you can let go of the worry for now, understanding that the worry is there to show you that you need to take action to change something that you do not like. That you will take this action as soon as you can but that for now there is nothing that you can do but to let go. You lessen this worry by planning ahead to the time when you can take action.

All worry is lessened when you are willing to look at it. When you are willing to look at and study the source of your worry, that worry loses its power. By studying and exploring these worries, it keeps them all in proper perspective. You understand their reason and you also understand that worry is just a type of warning system that is telling you that things need to change. Worry then just becomes an ally that allows you to plan in order to overcome obstacles that you might face in the near or distant future. Worry is your friend, face it, understand it, use it to overcome the obstacles in your life.

 

 

 

 

 

How To Listen To Your Stress Indicators

Stress is something that is becoming a bigger and bigger problem in our modern fast-paced lives. Stress is an indicator that is letting us know that we are overwhelmed and overworked and that we need to take a break. The hyperactivity of the modern lifestyle increases the likelihood that you will experience stress because of its incredibly fast paced nature.

Our modern world has become the world of gadgets. We all have some kind of gadget, whether it’s a smart phone, a tablet of some kind, or a laptop. These gadgets are constantly feeding us information and keeping us up to date on scheduling, which have turned most modern life into a robotic existence. None of these gadgets are helping us to really cope with stress, if anything they tend to aggravate the situation even more.

Most people have even begun to consider stress to be an enemy. They think of stress is something that has to be fought off, as an inconvenience that must be beaten somehow. You must realize though that stress is actually an indicator and it is your body’s way of showing you that you need a break. When you ignore this indicator, your body must take more aggressive action in to trying get you to relax and recuperate. It is therefore very important that you learn to identify the indicators of stress so that you are able to deal with this situation before it escalates.

Early indicators of stress are different for different people. Some people tend to feel stress as a type of bodily tension while others might see stress as a barrage of negative thoughts and feelings. What is most important is that you identify your own personal indicators so that you are able to deal with stress in a timely manner. Remember that stress is just your body trying to tell you that you need a break, if you do not identify these early indicators of stress, your body will take measures to get you to relax in a different way. When early stress indicators are ignored; some people get migraine headaches, others have a stomach upset, while others might be affected by a cold or the flu. What the body is doing here is that it’s taking matters into its own hands and is creating the situation where the body must stop what it’s doing and relax.

If you maintain a highly stressful life, where stress is something that you continually have to deal with, it is possible that your body can take more drastic measures to get you in the right path. Do realize though that these are not measures that are done behind your back or measures that you do not have any control over. If you would learn to listen to your early stress signals and question yourself as to why you are stressing out at the moment, you would discover why you are having a problem. Understanding why you are having these problems, you can then try to change your situation so that you can deal with. If you ignore these problems and these early stress indicators, you will find different ways to deal with your situation.

All of this can be seen quite consciously by you if you’re willing to pay attention to yourself and how you are feeling. Nothing is ever hidden from us if we are willing to consciously experience our reality and to continually discover the reasons for all our feelings. If you consciously do not take responsibility for your stressed-out life, A different part of you that you might even label as ‘subconscious’, will take over and make sure that you take the time to relax as you should.

It is very important that you become aware of your personal emotional life. You must begin to understand the early signals of stress. In this way you will be able to take conscious action and relieve that stress, which just means; Take a break!

Remember stress is just a body signal that is telling you that you need a break, that you need to take some time off and see things from a different perspective. If you become adept at identifying these early stress signals and act on them when they present themselves, you will have a happier, healthier, and far more successful life.

 

 

 

 

 

How To Overcome Low Self Esteem

Self-esteem is the prerequisite to self-confidence and to greater and better personal accomplishment. It is something that you must always work towards developing within yourself because it is the great resource that creates fine accomplishment. Self-esteem is also responsible for your internal happiness and is the one thing that can help you begin to truly enjoy your life. It is seldom the case that we all naturally feel great self-esteem, it is usually something that most of us have to work at.

In order to develop your self-esteem, begin to attack those prejudices which might lead you to undervalue who you are. These prejudices are beliefs that we hold about ourselves. Many times we believe that these beliefs are unquestionable and we therefore turn these beliefs into concrete facts that we cannot change. The reality of the situation though is that these beliefs are interchangeable and that there is no belief that is bedrock fact, there are only beliefs that you will not question. It is critical then that you question these beliefs that would have you believe that you are a lesser person.

In order to develop your self-esteem you must also learn to stifle that inner critic. That inner critic is that little voice or that feeling that you have that tells you that you are not special. It usually questions everything that you do and tells you that you are not capable. This critic is the end result of those beliefs that you have about yourself, those beliefs that are telling you that you are a lesser person. By questioning your beliefs you begin to stifle this inner critic. Whenever this inner critic begins its rhetoric, try to question what it’s trying to tell you. For example if your inner critic tells you that you are not good enough, ask yourself why you believe that you are not good enough. Using your inner critic as an ally you will discover those negative beliefs that you have. With this realization you should find it easier to change these beliefs and to replace those ‘supposed’ facts with a belief about yourself that is far more empowering.

People with low self-esteem tend to have a double standard; they tend to judge themselves unfairly while they give others great leeway. Because of their low self-esteem they tend to think that everything that they do is wrong while others seem to have a free pass. Many do not even realize that they’re doing this but it does contribute to their low self-esteem and it confirms those beliefs that they have about themselves. Pay attention next time that you are dealing with others and see if you are treating them and yourself differently. Do you have a double standard?

Whenever you do anything in life you should always try to do the best that you can. As long as you are doing this you should not feel bad about your actions or about your results. Try not to berate yourself for not being perfect because perfection is a lie. Those with beliefs that create low self-esteem tend to believe that they can do nothing right and therefore find it impossible to find the perfection that they seek. By questioning your beliefs you should be able to realize that many of the standards that you hold yourself to are quite unrealistic. There is no such thing as perfection because everything is always in a state of becoming more. While you might think that doing something exactly like someone else, perhaps an expert in the field, might be perfection; the reality of the fact is that perfection is not possible in that way because it is impossible for you to do anything exactly like someone else. The reason for this is that you are not that person and every person has different capabilities. You should use the standards of experts as reference but you should always realize that you need to do things in your own way and by doing things in your own way you will never achieve perfect duplication of their actions. Greater self-esteem should allow you to realize that you need to do things your own way.

As you begin to question your beliefs about low self-esteem you might realize that you are spending an awful lot of time with people that are bringing you down. Always try to spend more time with people that make you feel good. Those with low self-esteem tend to naturally gravitate towards those people that would confirm their beliefs about themselves. Usually these people are negative and tend to treat you in a negative way. Begin by changing these negative beliefs and also try to let go of those people from your past that are bringing you down. Try to find and spend more time with those that bring you joy and happiness. Spend more time with those that empower you instead of making you feel like you are nothing.

As you can see, self-esteem is definitely something that most of us need to work at. By understanding this fact and realizing that most likely low self-esteem is directly related to what you believe about yourself, you can begin to pull yourself out of this quagmire and start to develop more positive beliefs about yourself.

 

Happiness Only Comes From Within

Happiness cannot be found through exterior circumstance. Happiness is something that we all search for, this is perhaps because when we are feeling happy it usually means that everything is going our way. Feeling good after all feels good. The positivity movement tells us that we should be happy all day all the time, but is this really a good thing? The reality of the situation is that if you try to make yourself happy when you’re really feeling sad, you are suppressing emotion and this can be very dangerous. Stifled emotion can create all sorts of psychological and physical problems.

Happiness can be found through friends, things, situations, and family. Sadness and anger can also be found through friends, things, situations, and family. Happiness is also not the be all and end all of life, and while happiness and good feeling can make life much easier, it is a bad thing to think that these emotions are the only cause of external abundance. Anyone that is telling you that you should be happy all the time and every day is really telling you that you should become half yourself and this is no way to live life, no matter how much abundance and wealth you think you might get as a result.

If emotions are created by thoughts and thoughts create reality then you must realize that thoughts are created because of belief systems. In order to create more personal happiness, which is a natural result of having a better life situation, you have to begin to understand what your beliefs about life are. Many believe that the external world is responsible for happiness, others believe that you have to fake happiness to make happiness; true happiness though can only be achieved through internal understanding. While external things can allow us to see how we feel about certain things and therefore tell us about our beliefs, the only way to change these beliefs and understand them is through internal contemplation.

Generally speaking if you are not a very happy person, it is most likely the case that you have to make some large changes in what you believe life is. A great way to change these general concepts about life is to realize that you are a mortal being, that you are going to die. Even though this might seem a bit morbid, it is nonetheless a great way to motivate yourself into a better understanding of your life experience. By realizing that this moment can literally be your last moment, after all you must appreciate the fact  that death can come at any time anywhere, you can begin to truly appreciate the preciousness of your present reality. By understanding your own mortality you begin to ‘juice life’ and stop taking so much for granted. An understanding of your own mortality is also a great way to get over the pettiness that you might feel. Nothing is better at letting you know that what you do matters than death.

It is my belief that only through the realization of your impending death can you truly begin to experience happiness. It is a funny juxtaposition really in that this realization of your own mortality allows you to feel both frailty and great strength. While in the one hand you feel just how frail your position is on this Earth and how many things can take it away, the awareness of your personal death also allows you to re-channel your energies so that you finally begin to experience life as a fully awake and strong individual. Happiness therefore is an internal quest and must be balanced through the understanding that while happiness is something that you must aspire to, you must also allow all your emotions to have their time.

 

 

 

 

 

 

How To State Your Love For Life

Learn to state your love for life. Many of us find it much easier to say and think about the things that we don’t like in our lives instead of stating those things that we love. In order to state your love for life, you must be specific about what it is that you do love. Stating your love for life is really about appreciating all those little things that make up your experience throughout the day.

Many people seem to get stuck, always thinking about the worst of their day. It often times becomes easy to do this because there is such emotional energy attached to negative situations. The negative emotion created because of a bad driver or a rude person can haunt you for a long time and can ruin your good mood.

To state your love for life means that you are willing to go beyond the petty problems and to acknowledge that life is worth living. Those that state their love for life are seeing the tribulations of life as a challenge and not something that is done to them. It is to your great advantage then to see all of life as a challenge and in this way begin to appreciate even those things that you might have considered negative in the past.

The wonderful thing about stating your love for life is that by making your love and appreciation clear, you open yourself up to experience more of the things that you enjoy and are appreciating. To find more of what you like, you need to know what that is.

Be honest with yourself and appreciate those things that you truly enjoy, try not to force yourself to like something because you think that by being positive you are somehow attracting good things to yourself. This is just a great way to create internal frustration that can eventually cause you to get ill or to have a terrible emotional outburst. Honestly love what you love and hate what you hate. Appreciation for life means that you appreciate your individual self enough to allow yourself to experience your emotions honestly. Appreciation for life means that you have respect for self.

  • A great way to begin to state your love for life is to get a journal or to just grab a piece of paper and write, “I love_________ in my life now”. If you get a journal, you can make an entry every day starting in the same way, “I love___”. This is a wonderful way to get you focusing on those things that you truly enjoy in life. Through this natural refocusing you WILL begin to see more of those wonderful things in your life.
  • When you have finished your entry for the day, read out loud what you just wrote down. Also try to create vivid mental pictures of those wonderful things. This will focus your mind even more on those things that you just wrote down. You are really training your mind to focus more and more on what you want instead of what you do not want. Try this for a week and you will see incredible results, your mood should improve greatly and whatever negative things you experienced will be felt less deeply.

Again do remember to be honest with yourself. Respect yourself enough to be honest with yourself by not trying to force yourself to feel positive about something that feels negative to you. Respect yourself enough to be your full self, but naturally focus yourself towards those things that you do appreciate and love. State your love for life by seeing the beauty in the moments and the challenge of every situation.

 

 

 

Appreciate Your Day And Feel Great

There is nothing better to lift up your spirits and renew your sense of purpose then to acknowledge your daily accomplishments. Doing this allows you to recognize the progress that you made during this day. Any type of acknowledgment, also has a great way of lifting your spirits because it’s sort of like doing an appreciation of the good things in your life, and there is no better way to get into a good mood then to appreciate everything.

We all seem to have a much easier time focusing on all the bad things that happened during the day. I suppose that this is natural, it is sort of like trying to find good news, no one is really that interested. We must though train ourselves to see more of the accomplishments and the good things that we have done instead of always focusing just on the bad. If you do this, and begin to focus on your accomplishments for the day, I think that you will soon discover that it is a pleasurable thing because it creates such good feelings.

It is never a good idea to make the last thoughts that you have in the day negative. It is always good effort, when we take the time to focus on the good of the day instead of the bad. You will find that if you go to sleep thinking good thoughts, you will most likely wake up thinking good thoughts as well. Train yourself then to think good thoughts and to acknowledge the good things just before you go to sleep.

Here are four good questions that will help you with your days appreciation:

– When today did I act close to or just like I desire to be?

– What did I get done today that I really wanted to do?

– In what way did I make a difference in someone’s life today?

– What cool and unexpected things happened to me today?

When appreciate your day, there is no need for you to try and look for the amazing things. Every little thing counts and the world is made of all the small moments working together. When you look back through your day to find things to appreciate, think of the little things that you saw and did and realize that it is the things that will shape your greater reality and it is for these things that you must appreciate.

You will be incredibly surprised at how you feel if you just learn to appreciate your day and to acknowledge all the things that you did today that made a difference in yourself and in others. There is no greater way to close your day then to put together a list of all the things that were positive and wonderful today. Even if you were to stand still and let the world flow past you for the entire day, I bet that there would be many things that would still be positive and worth appreciating. Life happens to us and we also act on life; both of these aspects flow together in perfect balance so that our lives are made up of this wonderful dance of action and reaction. Take the time every night to acknowledge your accomplishments of the day and you will sleep better and wake up feeling better as well.

 

 

 

 

 

How To Get Yourself Out Of A Rut

We all go through times in our lives we feel that we are stuck. This is a natural feeling that can happen to anyone of us, and you should not let it get you down. The feeling of being stuck; that you don’t have the ability, the resources, or the right attitude to get yourself into a better place, is a natural feeling that we all go through. It is good to always remember that this is just a feeling that will pass and that if you give it enough time, you will once again discover your courage. In other words be kind to yourself.

Sometimes we convince ourselves that things are too hard and that there is no way that we will be able to accomplish what want to do. In order to get over these feelings you must learn to find your passion. Passion and deep desire are the great motivators that will allow you to put in the effort to accomplish anything that you want in your life. You will be amazed at how creative you truly are when you’re motivated enough to accomplish your desires.

Here are some techniques you can use to get over that feeling of being stuck:

1. Try and finish the sentence, “if I had more time, I would_________” or “if I wasn’t so old, I would____”.

Finishing these sentences will get you thinking along the lines of what you would do if you would not place the obstacles of time in your way. Another wonderful sentence to try is, “if I could not fail, I would____”. Make a long list of all of the answers that you get by trying to finish these sentences. Do this exercise in a joyous manner, allowing your imagination to soar free, and in this way not inhibiting yourself or your possibilities.

2. Look at the list that you have created above and go through it to see which items get you very excited. Separate these items from the list and put them on a shorter list. The trick here is to be able to separate from your list only those things that truly gets you excited, that you have a deep desire in accomplishing. Perhaps there’s only one item on the list that makes you feel this way, this is all right since what you are trying to do here is to find what truly motivates you at this moment in time. You can always go back in the future and make a new list to find new passions then.

3. Now let us say that after doing the techniques above you have one item on your list that you are very passionate about, something that you desire to do very much. Think about this item and imagine yourself doing it, try to create a very vivid visualization of you accomplishing or doing your desire. Ask yourself after doing this; “does the pleasure of doing this outweigh the pain of getting it done?”
If the pleasure of doing or accomplishing this goal is great enough then the pain in trying to get it done will be worth it to you. Whenever you need motivation, just imagine yourself having accomplished this goal again, as vividly as you can, feeling the great pleasure from doing what you want, and this will be enough motivation to overcome the pain of your hurtles.

4. It is also a good idea to always examine your negative feelings as you contemplate achieving the above task. Do this by trying to find out for yourself why you are having these feelings. Simply asking yourself “why?”, will eventually take you deep enough into your conscious being so that you can answer for yourself what beliefs you are having at the moment. Examine then these beliefs logically and objectively, ask yourself again if these beliefs that you are having seem correct to you. If they are correct, is there a way that you can work around them or find ingenious new ways to overcome them and change them.

Sometimes it is even success that stops us from taking chances. We would rather settle for what we have, than to push ourselves and perhaps lose what we have in order to attain new things. Using the above technique you should be able to discover why you think that you are stuck and you think youcan’t accomplish something. Learn to overcome these old beliefs by first becoming very passionate about your new goals and then by challenging these old beliefs.

Never settle for what you have, always strive for more and in this way grow and become a better you. Never settle for feelings of being stuck, you can always have and do more if you are just willing to push yourself a little bit.

 

 

 

 

 

Share Your Love With Others

Learn to share your love with others. It is sometimes difficult to tell others how we feel, we tend to think that it is weak to tell others that we love them and that we appreciate them. It is actually a very brave thing to be able to put your heart on the line and to show others your love and appreciation in one way or another. This is so because we think that if we put our emotions out there, we will be putting ourselves in a place where we can be easily hurt.

To share your love for others means that you are willing to give of your affections freely and that you do not expect anything in return. If you are able to give in this way then you will see that there is no way for you to get hurt, whatever you give is given freely without any expectations from the other person. This kind of sharing of love is open and free. If the other person does not reciprocate your feelings or is even hurtful towards you, you are not able to be hurt by them. What you have given is given freely, it is your appreciation for them and the special place they hold in your world. Sharing your love in this way becomes energizing.

No matter how little you think you have in life, you will always have a deep well of inner love that you can share with others. This inner love is interesting because by giving of it you get more in return. As others feel your love and appreciation for them, they will return this love and respect in one form or another. Sharing of this love is a good way to remind yourself that you have a lot to give, and it actually opens you to receive even more from the world yourself.

You do not need to openly state your love in order to share love. There are many ways to show your love of others; you can for example share a funny story or a joke with someone. In this way you cheer the other person up and to make them feel better about whatever situation they are facing. This is a great way to show others your love because it is truly free; you are trying to give them a little energy from yourself by cheering them up with a good story and they can do as they like with your gift.

Sometimes you can share your love with someone else without interacting with them at all. You can do this by saying a silent little prayer for them, sending them positive energy and wishing them well. This positive energy can be of great benefit to someone else and it is a wonderful way for you to share your inner light with others. Never underestimate the power of prayer because it is a wonderful way to give to others and to share from your heart.

Just calling a friend or a family member is a great way to share of yourself. Taking the time to call them and talking to them in person shows your appreciation and love. You could call them just to share a little quote, or a story that you found funny or interesting. Anybody can send an e-mail, and e-mails with a joke or whatever attached to them can eventually even take the feeling of spam. Take the time to actually call someone and share of yourself personally, this is a far better thing for them and a better show of your love.

You can also share your love and appreciation of others by helping them solve problems. This is what we usually think of as giving to others but it doesn’t have to be a grandiose thing. If ever you have an idea that you think would help another with his or her project then why not share it. If you have a way to solve someone’s problem then tell them and in this way show your appreciation and your concern for them.

Some of us are not very wealthy and might not be able to give material things. We are though able to give from our inner light and love. Learn to share your love for others and you will receive far more than you give.

 

 

 

 

 

Make Personal Happiness A Priority

One of the most powerful things to implement in your life, is the idea that you must always make happiness your biggest priority. Personal happiness is the key to a good life, and will improve your self-esteem and health. Happiness has a natural way of lightening your energy and filling you with hope for the future.

We are all emotional beings, there is no way to stop our emotions and stay healthy. Since our emotions are something that we cannot get rid of, it is important that we begin to regulate these emotions and that we strive to attain more happiness and less sadness. Now when I say regulate I do not mean that we should try to control our emotions as this is impossible, what I mean though is that we can control the focus of our attention so that we begin to experience more of the things that we like and less of the things that bring us grief.

As children we do a great job of focusing and doing what we like, but as adults we tend to take on the idea that to always pursue our happiness and our desires is wrong. This is of course not the case, what usually is the case is that others impose these beliefs upon us. Taking responsibility for your happiness means that you are willing to spend more time on those things that bring you joy and to follow your own heart instead of trying to please others. Without happiness life is not really worth living, and it is therefore very important that you make it a priority.

If you are having difficulty trying to figure out how to start, a real good way to begin is to just take more time for yourself. Just like you would take the time to pay attention to someone you love and to see to their needs, take the time for yourself as well and see to your needs and your desires. Try to treat yourself and give yourself some kind of present every day. This might seem a little silly and perhaps childish to some but it is a great way to begin to show yourself the kind of personal love that you deserve.

Doing the small things might create many conflicting emotions within you. If this is the case then it is very important that you examine these emotions so that you realize what belief is causing them. It is quite possible that you will feel guilt or a number of other emotions stemming from a belief that you are being selfish. Question these beliefs and examine them objectively because it is usually these beliefs that cause the greatest grief in our lives, as they are the ones that push us away from the self love we should all be giving ourselves.

Many believe that any kind of self-interest is a type of selfish behavior. If this belief is not examined then it is possible that you could lead a hard life where the mere idea of considering your personal thoughts becomes repugnant. You must realize though that there is no possibility of bringing happiness and good things to others unless you are able to do the same for yourself.

Personal happiness means being a little selfish perhaps. It means that you’re willing to consider your needs and that you see that you are a very important person. If you do not take the time to create happiness in your life then it is quite possible that no one else will either. The kind of selfishness that I am advocating means taking a little time for yourself; just like anything else there is a balance where too much of anything is a bad thing. But at the same time too little self-interest is also detrimental. If you at least take the time to make happiness a priority in your life, you will see that all other facets of your life will improve as well.