We are all busy bees. Modern life has become so fast and so complicated that it is sometimes hard to keep up with how we are feeling inside. We are also all required to do our duty and these external responsibilities can create great pressure. On top of that, external peer pressure can sometimes be incredibly overwhelming, pushing us to do things that we would not normally do if such pressures were not applied upon us.

In this modern world it has becoming incredibly important that you take time for yourself. Time for yourself is the only break that you will ever have from all of the external pressures that are constantly pushing against you. Take this time to explore your situation and see if you are doing things that you don’t want to do, that are not empowering you personally. You must always try to only do things that are making you stronger and better. By taking time off you can ask yourself; whom does this action help? Does this action help me in any way? How?

Whenever you are about to do something you must always ask yourself; how hard is it to do this certain thing? Take time to ask what it will cost you personally. There are many things that will be asked of you and that will not benefit you in any way at all. If you do not begin to question these actions and how they help you, you will become spent and waste your life doing things that never benefited you in any way. Always be critical of every action that you are about to take, if you are not careful of how and for what reason you spend your time and efforts, you are saying that there are others out there that are far more important than you are. Any time that you make this kind of choice, to do something unquestioningly because you think that it is your duty, you are essentially giving your life away to someone or something else. While giving your life away to someone else is your own choice, make sure that you are doing it for the right person or cause. Choose and be critical of these choices because your present life is precious.

Study your personal beliefs. Find out if you truly want to help others or if you are doing it because you think you have to do it. Take time for yourself and use this time to question yourself about what you truly believe you should be doing. Discover your values and the kind of priorities that you have personally. Discover your internal motivations and your personal desires.

Do only those things that empower you. It is possible that helping others doesn’t empower you; often times helping others makes us feel very good and this is a very empowering thing. The trick though is to only do those things that you wish to do. Any time that you are doing something that you do not want to, you are essentially disempowering yourself. This is so because you are telling yourself that you are too weak to actually do what you want to do and must therefore do what you are told you have to do. To empower yourself means that you realize your own personal self-worth and you realize that even though there might be a few things that you are forced to do at the moment, you are actively working towards a point in your life where you will be able to do exactly what you want to do and not be forced by another. You increase your own self-esteem and happiness by being your own person and by freeing yourself from the shackles of others.

By knowing yourself you know what you want to do. By doing what you want and following your personal desires you gain self-esteem. Self-esteem is the road to understanding your own self-worth and this self-worth will create true internal happiness. Do only those things that make you feel stronger and better and in this way discover your true happiness.