Many believe that manners have gone out the window. As we look around it does become somewhat evident that few people treat each other pleasantly anymore. I think that there is a natural relation between the amount of people in any one place and the kind of courtesy that they used to treat each other with. I find it that the more crowded the environment the less likely that people are to be pleasant and to use good manners.
Manners are an incredibly powerful thing. Many write about the fact that you should learn persuasion or how you should learn to attain some kind of incredible rapport with others so that you can get them to do what you want. A very simple way to get others to be nice to you and to do things for you is to treat them in a pleasant way and to always have good manners. There is no need for this or that trick that sometimes can even make you feel a little shady or uncomfortable because you’re trying to pull off something that is not natural for you.
If you ask just about anyone, they will tell you that they seldom get thanked for what they are doing. It is amazing how a little thing like ‘thank you’, ‘please’, or even ‘I’m sorry’ can have any credibly large impact on another person. By remembering your manners and using them in all your dealings with other people, you will discover an amazing power to have others treat you with respect and courtesy. Even when you are mad and frustrated yourself, you can always manage to be polite and to practice good manners and courtesy. If you are able to do this even when you are facing antagonistic and difficult people, you will be able to put yourself in a superior position that will allow you to get your way more often than not.
Think about how often you really say ‘thank you’, or when the last time was that you said ‘please’ to anyone. It is also a good idea to find out for yourself when you use good manners naturally and when you don’t. For example some of us find it very easy to use good manners when we are talking to someone we like, but we find it far more difficult to use good manners when we are around someone we do not like. Ask yourself “why?”, commit to developing a courteous manner with everyone. If you commit yourself to using good manners in all situations, you will be incredibly surprised by the courtesy that you will start receiving from all others.
Do remember also that good manners are not just for others they are also a way to prove ourselves that we are worthy of respect ourselves. You don’t have to be happy and bubbly all the time, all you need to do is treat others with courtesy. Doing this you separate yourself from the average individual and you demonstrate that you are of good breeding and good education.
Try to get yourself into the habit of using good manners in all your future dealings. Try to create the feeling of courtesy in your actions towards others and develop a sense of fine and honest action. Even when you are treated rudely yourself, make sure that you never forget your own manners. In this way you will be able to get others to treat you in a better way or at least put yourself in a superior position where their rude behavior will essentially be beneath you. Try to make it a habit of using these phrases more and more during your day. Thank you!