How To Do Affirmations Properly
Affirmations are very powerful. They can be used to change a belief, and to give us positive emotions when we’re feeling quite negative. They are perhaps the best and easiest way to change how we feel at any moment. The trick is really the focus in that you need to be focused completely on the affirmation that you are using, or else it won’t work well.
In order to have positive and lasting results from an affirmation, these affirmations need to be done properly. The technique is most important, and the reason why affirmations have become lack luster in the last while is that most people do not know how to use them properly. The most important aspect of an affirmation is that kind of focus that you give to them, this can not be stressed enough. Most people believe that you can just say any phrase, anytime, however you want and you will get results. This is not the case, for an affirmation to be successful it must have your undivided attention.
Affirmations can be done anywhere, and this is perhaps why some people believe that you can say them without really having to pay attention to them. But even when you are saying them while driving or while doing some other activity, it is important that you give them at least some attention. Affirmations that you use during these times of personal activity tend to be more for changing negative emotional states. They are used to refocus your mind on a more positive thing so that you can break a negative feeling. But even when they are used in this way they must be given some attention. Do please be careful if you are engaged in an activity like driving that does requires all your attention, try and say your affirmation when you’re fully stopped and can devote a little focus on them.
To truly do an affirmation properly, try to find a quiet place where you can focus all your attention on it. Create a short positive phrase that states your desire as if this desire is already manifest. For example you can say something like, “I have… Now”. It is important that you fine tune this phrase until it feels good to you. You will be able to do this by paying attention how you feel when you say it. Within a matter of days of doing the exercise that I will outline below you will have the phrase that is perfect for you.
Now in this quiet place, begin to repeat this phrase to yourself. Try to focus your attention completely on this affirmation. You must try to focus your mind completely on this affirmation or you will end up with a jumbled mind that will not be able to focus on your desired outcome. If your mind can’t stop from wandering around and thinking of thoughts that are not related to the affirmation, try and have your mind visualize the affirmation. That is if your mind must wander then let it try and create visualizations of your affirmation.
Trying to repeat your affirmation, while focusing completely on it, for a good 10 minutes. You will find that it is quite difficult to focus longer than this. It is quite difficult for most of us to try and focus on a single thing for more than a few minutes, so 10 minutes is a very long time. If you can over time increase this amount then this is good, but there is no big need to do this affirmation exercise longer than 10 minutes.
I also recommend that you do this exercise twice a day. Perhaps you will want to do it in the morning and then in the evening. If you can’t do this, because of time constraints, then once a day is good. The real power of this affirmation exercise is in the amount of focus that you are able to give it when you are doing it.
Many see great results in a matter of weeks. Others find that they need to do this affirmation exercise for a longer period of time. I would say that most beliefs and therefore great change in your life is possible in about 90 days. Try to develop your rhythm, think of it as doing exercise and in this way you can create a routine that can change your life. Affirmations work when done properly.
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It sounds very interesting all content. Is it possible to apply this to a change in the physical appearance? We see possible change thought patterns and behaviors but it is even possible in the foregoing?
It is indeed possible. Through concentrated effort you can change your beliefs, which then change your thought patterns. These changes allow you to see yourself in a different way, and through shared communication; through body language, micro expression, and telepathy of a more subtle kind, others will begin to see you physically in a different way as well.
These changes in thought will eventually even begin to change you in what you would consider a very physical way also.
Hello John!
After reading your article, I am feeling really good about working with my belief system. I think we have missed the concept of sustained “attention” in our society. I was hoping to find some clarity as to the best way to go about these exercises. I do have a belief, but it is very limiting, essentially it goes along the lines of “I am not good enough.” It has powered my life for the last two decades but only just recently have I managed to actually put two and two together and realize what the belief actually was.
I can trace where this belief originated and can remember multiple events in my life that supported such a belief. Just the knowledge of what belief has been bothering me has done wonders for my mood, but my goal is to completely replace this belief with a powerful, empowering one.
In your article, you mention we can use “I have, and Now” to build our affirmations but does the same apply to “I am”? So a possible replacement belief could be “I am more than good enough” or something along those lines? Is there a better way to phrase a belief that can help?
Thanks,
Kris
I think that this is a good way to start Kris, with the phrase ‘I am…’ what you will note though, if you repeat this phrase and you focus your attention on it, is that if you dedicate enough time to it, you will begin to experience certain feelings or inner scenarios, images, that might go against what this phrase is trying to say, what this belief means to you.
These contrary internal scenarios, that may tell you for example that you are not good enough for whatever reason, perhaps that you’re not good around people, or that do not have enough skill at something, and such beliefs will present themselves to you in this way (feeling, inner scenario, image in mind). When this happens, it is very important that you explore your feelings in that you do not just try to white wash over them with your power phrase. In this way you will encounter perhaps even deeper beliefs, or subsidiary beliefs that help to prop up the belief that you are trying to overcome. When you face these subsidiary beliefs, you must counter them and face them using logic or whatever other techniques I mention to prove to yourself that this particular belief is false. This can be a long process, but it is worth it and it will allow you to, in this way, to work with and change your inner psyche over time.
hi there John! love all your books. just wanted to ask you a question on what you think about continuing to populate the earth. it feels like people blind follow along the life map that they have been taught and continue to have children without understanding the grander scope of things or even trying to seek the truth. I feel so torn inside about this and it bothers me quite often. I don’t feel right bringing another life into this prison.
This is an incredibly tough question. Inner alchemists do indeed see the modern human world as a prison, and as such they are engaged in a struggle which may require that they deny themselves some of the most natural aspects of being a regular person, which may involve no children.
But, this is a choice and there are ways, such as the mastery of Agape which I discuss in the last book in the magnum opus trilogy, The Way of the Death Defier.
For the inner alchemist this quest to try to break free of the prison is a challenge, the ultimate challenge, the ultimate adventure possible for a human being. It engages every single ounce of strength, cunning, creativity, and power that a human being can muster as an individual, as they try to tackle the greatest adventure possible.
As such, one could say that while it is possible that some, many, might come here to become a part of that prison, they are also here to participate in the greatest challenge and adventure possible for them. And while such an adventure, being that it is the greatest quest, needs to in an of itself be incredibly difficult, it is nonetheless an amazing and glorious escapade beyond any of the greatest hero fictions possible.
What I am trying to say is that, while not wanting to have children might seem like you are trying to save some from suffering, you are also denying them the possibility of engaging in the greatest challenge possible. A hero may suffer but without that suffering they could never attain the heights that are possible for them, and they could never therefore become the great protagonists that they were meant to become.
I hope you can understand what I am trying to say.