How To Sorround Yourself With Positive People And Prosper

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How To Sorround Yourself With Positive People And Prosper

It is very a important thing you learn to surround yourself with positive people. The kind of people that you surround yourself with has a great influence on how you deal with life and what your resources are. It is therefore imperative that you surround yourself with people that will uplift you and will make you feel better, people that will provide a positive feedback, and will give you the positive energy that you need in order to be a success in life.

Others have an incredible influence on our mental state. You know this yourself because when you find yourself in front of people that are negative you tend to have an influx of negative energy. While positive people tend to bring up your energy and soon create new possibilities in your mind. The reason for this is that you are a very receptive being whether you are aware of this were not. We are all taking an incredible amounts of information, information that for the most part we are not even aware of. The amount of this unconscious and conscious information is staggering and it also has a great effect on how we act, because our perceptions really are the basis of our actions. If we tend to not control our perceptions, we are bound to act in ways that are detrimental to us.

It is easy to see how others have an effect on our lives by thinking and remembering the relationship that we have with our parents. It is easy to see that our parents have incredible influence in our lives, that for most of us what they say counts, and their energy has the ability to greatly regulate what we do. Many could say that their chosen profession or even their partner is the result of the influence that our parents had on us. Our friends and acquaintances can have great power over our actions as well.

I suggest therefore that you make a list of all of the people in your life. This does not have to be a very long list, it can be a shorter list of the people that you spend the most time with in your life right now. Separate the list into two parts, the first part being those people that uplift you and make you feel very good. The second part of the list, will then be made up of those people that bring negative energy into your life, and make you feel less than and provide, providing very little positive input.

Now it is difficult of course for this list to be so black and white. Some people there are positive at certain times and are negative at other times. The idea though is to be able to have a decent assessment of all those that provide positivity for the most part and all those that provide negativity for the most part. With this list you should be able to get good bearing on the kind of people that are uplifting you and the kind of people that are bringing you down.

Once you have finished this list, ask yourself why is it that some of these people are bringing negativity into my life. Why is it that some of these people made me feel bad and bring mostly negativity to me? This kind of personal questioning will allow you to find many answers that will hopefully provide the reasons why you are letting these people create such a negative influence in your life.

Now you have a personal option. You can either confront these people personally and asked them why they are being negative. This is a difficult thing because it is quite possible that some of these people actually feel some kind of resentment towards you and this can be a very difficult thing to confront, especially from those that you believe are your friends. It will though be an incredibly powerful way for you to change and to see how your life and your actions are affecting those around you.

Your second option which might be easier but less self enlightening, is to try and surround yourself more with those that provide a positive influence and energy in your life. This can still be a difficult process, because you must be strong enough to take the initiative and cut out from your life those that are bringing you down.

What you choose to do is up to you, but it is most important that you realize that these friends and acquaintances have an incredible influence on how you feel and the kind of success that you have in your life. Take the time and energy to make this list and to question yourself. You will find that it is an incredibly powerful way to change all aspects of your life. Surround yourself with positive people for your own success and a better life.

6 responses to “How To Sorround Yourself With Positive People And Prosper”

Sparkly Mermaid

March 4, 2026

Thank you for this article. I’ve only recently discovered your work and am enjoying exploring the social skills section of your site.

I’ve been using the energy transmutation technique from The Vampire’s Way to Psychic Self-Defence discreetly during the day and have found it genuinely helpful for managing my own negative energy, though I don’t use it at night as I can’t get to sleep.
I really like the way you write.
As I read your words, I felt cared for, almost as if I were being held in your hands.
You make your knowledge accessible, and I look forward to adding more of your work to my Kindle collection and I’ve just started reading Digital Sigil Magic.

I would really value your thoughts on self-regulation when temporarily “stuck” with a negative person whose behaviour feels draining, for example being on holiday with another couple and navigating constant social interaction.

I want to genuinely connect with people however, struggle with reacting, rather than responding, and am prone to rumination and isolation.

Despite exploring both mainstream and alternative therapeutic approaches, I still find myself becoming dysregulated in prolonged social settings.

Do you have guidance on managing this more effectively in real time?

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1. John
  
  March 5, 2026
  
  Thank you very much Sparkly, I really appreciate your kind words.
  First of all, sorry, I will have to recommend another book if you don’t mind, and that book is, Overcoming the Archon Through Alchemy.
  Why recommend that book, or perhaps even, The Magnum Opus A Step-By-Step Course, is because those books deal a lot more heavily with the concept of containing your energy, and this is a key aspect of managing yourself within social interactions.
  That is one of the more basic principals of these books; it is something I refer to as energetic containment. This technique involves the ability to contain within yourself all those energetic flares that pop up whenever you are in an emotional situation, which for some of us, including me, can be a great source of energetic draining. It is this energetic draining that is responsible for that feeling of discombobulation, that then makes us seek isolation as we ruminate endlessly on potentially somber ideas.
  The key term there is energetic containment.
  But beyond this you must first and foremost understand that in order to maintain any kind of stability within difficult situations, you must be able to stay focused on your present moment. This is often the reason why we struggle with reacting instead of responding. If we can’t stay focused on the present moment, we are constantly being dragged along like zombies across all situations. The first idea therefore is to wake up.
  The second thing here is that you should also remember to honor yourself. This means that if for whatever reason you are not into constant or perhaps complex social interactions, then realize this about yourself, honor yourself and your desires, and if you can, do a little more of what you actually want to do.
  Happiness comes from doing more of what you want, as opposed to what you don’t want. The art of play is basically the most natural way to just begin to do what you want to do. Play is fun and it is something you want to do because it is exactly what you want to do, whether that’s running around as you windmill, throwing rocks at the pond, or just sitting around all by yourself ruminating on your happy thoughts.
  
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Sparkly Mermaid

March 7, 2026

John, thank you for taking the time to read and reply so thoughtfully to my slightly unhinged post.

I’ve just purchased the books you recommended on my Kindle and I’m looking forward to learning more about energetic containment and staying steady in social situations (despite how I might interpret other people’s intentions).

It makes sense that happiness comes from doing more of what you actually want to do, and I’m beginning to see how bringing the art of play into my life might help me lighten up a bit too!

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Moonbeam

May 13, 2026

I’ve put my house on the market and preparing to leave this country. At 10 years old I immigrated to this country, and I’ve lived in the same city from 1993-2020. I bought this house in the remote mountains as a weekend escape. It’s heartbreaking to leave my house & garden, I’ve poured so much love and effort into it. There’s also my beloved cat Shumai who is buried here.

One major reason is that I’ve not found friends since I’ve been here full time 2020. I recreated a healing practice in 2021 (forced to give up my former practice in 2020), and I realized that even though I helped many transform their lives, they are not my friends. Most who live near here are so consumed by daily life that they simply do not make time for me.

Wherever I end up, I know there are possibilities of making friends or not. But it does seem like I exhausted the possibility here. I want to explore the possibility of my dream – live at least part of the time near a tropical beach. Be much closer in distance to my mother. Last time I stayed with her, I felt so safe. I was able to create freely with joy because I felt so safe.

I don’t know if this is the right way, or the most efficient way, or the best way to go about my life. After reading this article, I am even more committed to surrounding myself with people who raise my frequency, or rather I am inclined to raise my own frequency because theirs is resonant. Simply, I learned that I don’t like this feeling of isolation & loneliness. I’m willing to take a huge risk and majorly shift my life so perhaps I’ll find connection elsewhere.

And as I tell people in my life about my process, I noticed that some immediately bring very negative, worrisome vibes: “what if your house doesn’t sell? What if someone wants to pay $50K less? What if you don’t like where you go?” This is a huge deal for my spouse & I no matter which way I slice the pie, and it is not easy to receive this kind of absurd worries. Already a lot of fear is rising up. I’ve had many physical reactions and of course mental ones.

Thank you so much for your writing. I find immense clarity reading Overcoming the Archon and I’ve created 2 digital sigils as forms of artwork since reading that book. Honestly, I’m too confused & scared right now to form a coherent question, however
I welcome any reflection from you, John Kreiter.

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1. John
  
  May 19, 2026
  
  This is a very tough process and I truly commend you on your courage. As you know, I have no expertise in these kinds of matters so I cannot tell you what to do, nor would I ever want to. Your choices are your own and I respect that completely.
  What I can share is what helps when someone is changing a belief using my techniques. Perhaps something in this might be useful for you. When changing a belief I always say to use logic and create empowering affirmations that slowly begin to shift what you believe by rewiring your thoughts. This takes repetition. It takes going through the same steps again and again until new pathways form in the brain. In the best circumstances this can take up to a month and if doubts are present it can take longer. But step by step you can change and through that change new things become possible.
  One thing I always emphasize is that you will never have a black and white answer. At best you will have a percentage (maybe for you this isn’t a number but a feeling which you could say that one feels more powerful than the other; examine your own patterns of being and work with them). If that percentage of possibility (or the power of that feeling) is within something you can accept then you move forward with the affirmation. In other words your calculations and the plans you establish help increase the percentage of positive possibility. They do not guarantee anything but they help you feel grounded in your own reasoning, and through that change and a feeling of trust within yourself, positive synchronicity can come to your aid.
  For example if you are worried that shingles on your roof might fly off during a stormy summer you follow the logical steps. You examine the shingles. You examine the weather. You consider difficult scenarios. After doing this you calculate whether the shingles will or will not withstand the storms. If your calculations lead you to one choice or the other then you understand that this is your conscious choice. You have done what you can. You have thought about it. You have calculated it. You have laid out your plans. This is what you need to do based on your own reasoning.
  Sometimes it helps to create a simple little table, something like:
  • Pros
  • Cons
  • Fixes
  The fixes part is the most important because it lets you create plans. Once those plans are laid out the emotional weight often lessens. You can trust your calculations instead of feeling like you are being blown around by worry. This is how you create an affirmation and how you begin to change a neural pattern in your mind. You remind yourself that you have examined the situation and that you have made the best choice you can.
  It does not remove all worry but it helps. At the very least it helps you know that you made your best choice possible and that now it is simply a matter of moving forward with whatever you choose. You took responsibility for your actions. You examined the possibilities. You followed your intuition. You did the best you could.
  I hope that whatever you choose you feel empowered and at peace with your decision.
  
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  1. Moonbeam
    
    May 20, 2026
    
    I appreciate your reply and all the ways that can be helpful. I’ve been pondering how my logic has changed throughout my life.
    
    Just read this from a musician I really like, “It’s daunting to write a song. But it is much more daunting to not write a song.”
    
    I feel this deeply. That’s my non-BW inclination of discomfort which is motivating me in this direction.
    
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