It is very a important thing you learn to surround yourself with positive people. The kind of people that you surround yourself with has a great influence on how you deal with life and what your resources are. It is therefore imperative that you surround yourself with people that will uplift you and will make you feel better, people that will provide a positive feedback, and will give you the positive energy that you need in order to be a success in life.
Others have an incredible influence on our mental state. You know this yourself because when you find yourself in front of people that are negative you tend to have an influx of negative energy. While positive people tend to bring up your energy and soon create new possibilities in your mind. The reason for this is that you are a very receptive being whether you are aware of this were not. We are all taking an incredible amounts of information, information that for the most part we are not even aware of. The amount of this unconscious and conscious information is staggering and it also has a great effect on how we act, because our perceptions really are the basis of our actions. If we tend to not control our perceptions, we are bound to act in ways that are detrimental to us.
It is easy to see how others have an effect on our lives by thinking and remembering the relationship that we have with our parents. It is easy to see that our parents have incredible influence in our lives, that for most of us what they say counts, and their energy has the ability to greatly regulate what we do. Many could say that their chosen profession or even their partner is the result of the influence that our parents had on us. Our friends and acquaintances can have great power over our actions as well.
I suggest therefore that you make a list of all of the people in your life. This does not have to be a very long list, it can be a shorter list of the people that you spend the most time with in your life right now. Separate the list into two parts, the first part being those people that uplift you and make you feel very good. The second part of the list, will then be made up of those people that bring negative energy into your life, and make you feel less than and provide, providing very little positive input.
Now it is difficult of course for this list to be so black and white. Some people there are positive at certain times and are negative at other times. The idea though is to be able to have a decent assessment of all those that provide positivity for the most part and all those that provide negativity for the most part. With this list you should be able to get good bearing on the kind of people that are uplifting you and the kind of people that are bringing you down.
Once you have finished this list, ask yourself why is it that some of these people are bringing negativity into my life. Why is it that some of these people made me feel bad and bring mostly negativity to me? This kind of personal questioning will allow you to find many answers that will hopefully provide the reasons why you are letting these people create such a negative influence in your life.
Now you have a personal option. You can either confront these people personally and asked them why they are being negative. This is a difficult thing because it is quite possible that some of these people actually feel some kind of resentment towards you and this can be a very difficult thing to confront, especially from those that you believe are your friends. It will though be an incredibly powerful way for you to change and to see how your life and your actions are affecting those around you.
Your second option which might be easier but less self enlightening, is to try and surround yourself more with those that provide a positive influence and energy in your life. This can still be a difficult process, because you must be strong enough to take the initiative and cut out from your life those that are bringing you down.
What you choose to do is up to you, but it is most important that you realize that these friends and acquaintances have an incredible influence on how you feel and the kind of success that you have in your life. Take the time and energy to make this list and to question yourself. You will find that it is an incredibly powerful way to change all aspects of your life. Surround yourself with positive people for your own success and a better life.