Self-Improvement and Interesting Knowledge

Your first line of defense in tornado weather is always the ability to spot one. If you know one is coming ahead of time then you have more time to be able to find shelter or get out of the region.

All States and Provinces have what is referred to as a “Weather Watch” and this can be further classified into a “Tornado Watch” when the threat becomes high enough. If you live in a tornado prone zone then make sure that you keep track of any kind of weather watch; the reason for this is that certain strong conditions can quickly change into tornado prone weather. If you stay ahead of the game by preparing for a tornado when there is only a severe storm watch, then you will be ahead of the game.

As soon as a “weather watch” of any kind is called, make sure that you stay close to your TV, or radio so that you get up to the minute warnings. The best thing to have is a battery operated weather radio that is small enough so that you can take it wherever you go. The weather reports will keep you advised on the path of the storm, whether the storm has indeed turned into a tornado, and when you can resume regular activity in your area.

Study up on meteorology and learn how to read possible tornado storms. Tornados tend to form when the weather is weirdly hot or humid. The tornado begins because cold and hot air masses collide and create a vortex of contending temperatures. There are often large and unusually strong sudden gusts of air just before a tornado starts. This begins as the two colliding air masses strike each other and begin to exchange energy. Many say that when the sky turns green, it is a sure sign that a tornado is about to be created. Keep an eye out for these odd colorations in the sky as they are portents of fowl storms and tornados.

Any time that you see large or small clouds begin to spin about, take shelter or get out of the area as quickly as you can. If it is raining really hard, it becomes very difficult to see the clouds above. If this is the case then take it for granted that you are in danger and move as quickly as you can to the best shelter that you can find. A spinning mass of clouds can sometimes seem like a large rain storm moving quickly along, in this case look just above and just below the cloud base to see if you can see any spinning movement. If you do see spinning, you are most likely seeing the beginning of a tornado. Even when the clouds seem to be moving around slowly, realize that they are sometimes miles from the center of the storm and are often far more massive then they may appear. Any cloud moving in even a slow vortex means that there is an incredibly powerful core driving this movement.

Tornados can change direction very quickly and move incredibly fast. Even in a fast moving car, you may not be able to outrun them. Stay alert for signs of the tornado so that you never put yourself in a situation where you might be trapped with no place to go. Do not take any chances when confronted with the possibility of a tornado, find shelter as soon as possible. At night keep your ears open and listen for any large thunderous noise. An incoming tornado can sound like a freight train coming straight at you, if you hear this noise then assume you are in the path of a tornado.

To spot a tornado:

  • Always keep a battery operated radio with you.
  • Stay most vigilant during Tornado season( January to November)
  • Watch out for any bad weather condition
  • Monitor storms as they may develop tornados
  • Check for a green sky
  • Be alert to any sudden and unexpected wind gusts
  • Check above and below large cloud base for spinning
  • Keep an ear open for sounds of a freight train
  • ALWAYS, know where the closest shelter is so that you can go to it instantly





There is nothing better to lift up your spirits and renew your sense of purpose then to acknowledge your daily accomplishments. Doing this allows you to recognize the progress that you made during this day. Any type of acknowledgment, also has a great way of lifting your spirits because it’s sort of like doing an appreciation of the good things in your life, and there is no better way to get into a good mood then to appreciate everything.

We all seem to have a much easier time focusing on all the bad things that happened during the day. I suppose that this is natural, it is sort of like trying to find good news, no one is really that interested. We must though train ourselves to see more of the accomplishments and the good things that we have done instead of always focusing just on the bad. If you do this, and begin to focus on your accomplishments for the day, I think that you will soon discover that it is a pleasurable thing because it creates such good feelings.

It is never a good idea to make the last thoughts that you have in the day negative. It is always good effort, when we take the time to focus on the good of the day instead of the bad. You will find that if you go to sleep thinking good thoughts, you will most likely wake up thinking good thoughts as well. Train yourself then to think good thoughts and to acknowledge the good things just before you go to sleep.

Here are four good questions that will help you with your days appreciation:

– When today did I act close to or just like I desire to be?

– What did I get done today that I really wanted to do?

– In what way did I make a difference in someone’s life today?

– What cool and unexpected things happened to me today?

When appreciate your day, there is no need for you to try and look for the amazing things. Every little thing counts and the world is made of all the small moments working together. When you look back through your day to find things to appreciate, think of the little things that you saw and did and realize that it is the things that will shape your greater reality and it is for these things that you must appreciate.

You will be incredibly surprised at how you feel if you just learn to appreciate your day and to acknowledge all the things that you did today that made a difference in yourself and in others. There is no greater way to close your day then to put together a list of all the things that were positive and wonderful today. Even if you were to stand still and let the world flow past you for the entire day, I bet that there would be many things that would still be positive and worth appreciating. Life happens to us and we also act on life; both of these aspects flow together in perfect balance so that our lives are made up of this wonderful dance of action and reaction. Take the time every night to acknowledge your accomplishments of the day and you will sleep better and wake up feeling better as well.






We all go through times in our lives we feel that we are stuck. This is a natural feeling that can happen to anyone of us, and you should not let it get you down. The feeling of being stuck; that you don’t have the ability, the resources, or the right attitude to get yourself into a better place, is a natural feeling that we all go through. It is good to always remember that this is just a feeling that will pass and that if you give it enough time, you will once again discover your courage. In other words be kind to yourself.

Sometimes we convince ourselves that things are too hard and that there is no way that we will be able to accomplish what want to do. In order to get over these feelings you must learn to find your passion. Passion and deep desire are the great motivators that will allow you to put in the effort to accomplish anything that you want in your life. You will be amazed at how creative you truly are when you’re motivated enough to accomplish your desires.

Here are some techniques you can use to get over that feeling of being stuck:

1. Try and finish the sentence, “if I had more time, I would_________” or “if I wasn’t so old, I would____”.

Finishing these sentences will get you thinking along the lines of what you would do if you would not place the obstacles of time in your way. Another wonderful sentence to try is, “if I could not fail, I would____”. Make a long list of all of the answers that you get by trying to finish these sentences. Do this exercise in a joyous manner, allowing your imagination to soar free, and in this way not inhibiting yourself or your possibilities.

2. Look at the list that you have created above and go through it to see which items get you very excited. Separate these items from the list and put them on a shorter list. The trick here is to be able to separate from your list only those things that truly gets you excited, that you have a deep desire in accomplishing. Perhaps there’s only one item on the list that makes you feel this way, this is all right since what you are trying to do here is to find what truly motivates you at this moment in time. You can always go back in the future and make a new list to find new passions then.

3. Now let us say that after doing the techniques above you have one item on your list that you are very passionate about, something that you desire to do very much. Think about this item and imagine yourself doing it, try to create a very vivid visualization of you accomplishing or doing your desire. Ask yourself after doing this; “does the pleasure of doing this outweigh the pain of getting it done?”
If the pleasure of doing or accomplishing this goal is great enough then the pain in trying to get it done will be worth it to you. Whenever you need motivation, just imagine yourself having accomplished this goal again, as vividly as you can, feeling the great pleasure from doing what you want, and this will be enough motivation to overcome the pain of your hurtles.

4. It is also a good idea to always examine your negative feelings as you contemplate achieving the above task. Do this by trying to find out for yourself why you are having these feelings. Simply asking yourself “why?”, will eventually take you deep enough into your conscious being so that you can answer for yourself what beliefs you are having at the moment. Examine then these beliefs logically and objectively, ask yourself again if these beliefs that you are having seem correct to you. If they are correct, is there a way that you can work around them or find ingenious new ways to overcome them and change them.

Sometimes it is even success that stops us from taking chances. We would rather settle for what we have, than to push ourselves and perhaps lose what we have in order to attain new things. Using the above technique you should be able to discover why you think that you are stuck and you think youcan’t accomplish something. Learn to overcome these old beliefs by first becoming very passionate about your new goals and then by challenging these old beliefs.

Never settle for what you have, always strive for more and in this way grow and become a better you. Never settle for feelings of being stuck, you can always have and do more if you are just willing to push yourself a little bit.






Many want to know how they can help others.  They find themselves in a good place in their lives, and they wish to share the wealth that they now have.  Many now are also discovering their spirituality and are seeking a meaningful way to connect with the world.

A great way to learn empathy, is to give of yourself to those that are in need.  Identifying with those that are in need and connecting with them on the spiritual level allows anyone, who takes the time, to discover the brotherhood of man.  This is a way to connect with your heart and to feel the love that binds us all together.

There are many would be volunteer organizations.  There are many amazing groups out there that are doing wonderful things for people, animals, and the environment.  There is no better way that I can think of than to volunteer for one of these great organizations. There are also many ‘Volunteer Vacation’ organizations out there collecting your money to give you the ‘pre-packaged’ volunteer feeing; they make a profit and you feel good supposedly. Make sure that you choose wisely.

But if you are having trouble finding a group or organization to work with, may I suggest a great alternative; I suggest you get a retail job.  Sure this sounds like a joke, but I am being very serious.  It is something that just about anyone can do and it is one of the greatest ways to connect and help others.  There are actually very few things that are as challenging and as enlightening as trying to maintain a retail job and to engage in customers service.  You can usually choose your hours and there’s always a good demand for this kind of work in any large city.  You can use whatever money you make to either donate to a good cause or to help you help others in your family with whatever they might need. Forget about sales quotas and silly corporation demands on you, and truly just try your best to help another human being in the best way that you can.

In this retail jobs, try to truly be helpful to others.  Try to give them the very best service that you can, doing the very best that you can do, in anything that you do for the customer.  Try to be empathic so that you can do for them what they really need in the best way that you can.  Look around and make sure that you do not ignore anyone and that you see anyone before you as a person that needs your help.

Be patient.  A retail job is a difficult thing, many believe that a retail sales person can be talked down to, that they are there to be used.  This requires great sobriety, patience, and personal control on your part.  You will be required to see beyond the petty person that stands before you and to have the patience and loving nature to be able to help them in the face of difficult circumstances.  Depending on where you work, you will need to learn all of the requirements that are needed to be a good and loving soul.

Always send others good energy.  Be a source of loving kindness, open your heart then even to the most demanding people.  Opening your heart when faced with such difficult individuals is truly a monumental task, it requires a kind of growth that many find difficult, even those wishing to take on a life of spirituality and kindness.  Send love and light from your heart to all those that you help and all those that enter whatever store you work at.

Many believe that they must travel around the world to find a place where they can help others.  But this is not the case, you can find some of the most challenging environments in the world just a few blocks from your house.  If you believe that these people require less help than the poor in other areas, then I suggest that you take more time to study your spiritual beliefs.  All people require your loving kindness, the loving heart makes no judgment, to help one individual completely with all your heart is powerful no matter where you are or what you are doing.  If you are interested in opening your heart and helping others, then I suggest that you take a retail job and try one of the most challenging spiritual experiences that you will ever have.







It is difficult to come across anything on positive mental change without coming across the term ’affirmation’. The dictionary defines affirmation as:
1. The act or an instance of affirming; state of being affirmed.
2. The assertion that something exists or is true.

Both are actually good definitions of affirmation. Affirmations can be said to be your commitment to an intention to goal; to make the mind and will clear, so that you are committed to believing that a certain thing is true. In some instances it can also be said to be a type of personal challenge, where you tell yourself that this is so and will be so because you say it is so. An affirmation then, as it relates to positive mental change, can closely be said to be defined as an assertion that something is true, whether this something is physically true or not. In other words an affirmation is a way to help you believe that something is true, even though it might not be true in an objective sense.

A good affirmation should be:

Positive; it should be a positive statement in the sense that it should talk about creation and you creating something instead of destruction or you destroying something. It should be positive also in the sense that it makes you feel good and saying the affirmation lifts your spirits and makes you feel better.

Here and now
; a good affirmation needs to be stated in such a way that you are experiencing said affirmation at this very moment. What is meant by this is that you must make your affirmation statement so that it is in the present tense. For example you should say, “I am now…”, And not, “I will…”.

Doable; what this means is that an affirmation should be something that you think is possible. This is a tricky subject because it is a subjective opinion, whether you believe that certain thing can or cannot be done. In order to get this right what you need to do is to examine your own beliefs and try and create an affirmation that you believe is plausible.

Another thing to remember is that you should pay complete attention to your affirmation as you are saying it. Most believe that an affirmation can just be said in a robotic fashion and that this is good enough to change your state. You must give the affirmation your full attention, and if your mind can’t stay focused on the statement of your affirmation then you must do everything that you can to use your imagination to visualize things pertaining to what you are affirming. If you don’t do this, your affirmation has no power.

An affirmation then is a statement, or better yet a small phrase, that affirms a belief and the existence of an ideal that might not be objectively true at the moment. An affirmation is a physical action that helps you to believe something that might not be true at the moment.

Using affirmations and the power of your imagination you can alter mood and redirect your mental thoughts. An affirmation used properly has enough power to change hormonal chemicals in your brain, which can alter how you feel and your energy level instantly. Just by saying a positive phrase it is possible for anyone to alter his or her thought patterns, and this is the true power of the affirmation; it is a fast and simple way to alter what you’re thinking at the moment and as a result change the direction of your actions and physiology.

Affirmations can also be said to be a kind of mental exercise. Once you have created a phrase that you like, you can repeat this affirmation as many times as you like. An affirmation said over and over and over again, then becomes a type of mental exercise. Each affirmation is sort of like a ‘curl’ or a ‘squat’, where the more you say it, the stronger that you become, and the closer that you get to attaining your goal. An affirmation, thought in this way, becomes a prayer sent into the wind at Eather, and the more that you this affirmation, the more thought forced that you give to your intended goal. If thoughts create reality than an affirmation repeated thousands of times creates a powerful thought indeed.

Affirmations are perhaps the best way to instantly alter you’re your thoughts. They can be used constructively anytime to keep you focused on your goal. They can also instantly alter moods and therefore keep you in a positive state of mind. Use affirmations then to your benefit and as an extra technique to control your thoughts and reality.






We are all told over and over again nowadays that meditation is good for us, but few of us know how to meditate properly. Meditation is supposed to be very good for mental health and also for our physical well-being. In a highly stressed out life, where the average person works about 40 hours a week, meditation seems to be a wonderful way to bring balance.

  • In order to meditate properly you must realize that the one key factor is that you must be able to focus your mind on one particular thing. By focusing the mind, you give yourself a type of rest because the mind is then not flying left and right with all sorts of mental aberrations.
  • Proper meditation also involves bodily relaxation. Body relaxation and the reduction of tension can greatly affect the mind since there seems to be a direct correlation between physical tension and emotion.
  • There is another important point to meditation that I must mention, and this is the concept of inner space. inner space is our internal conscious reality; it is the reality that we experience if we are able to go inside ourselves and ignore usual sense data. It is essentially the reality that you would be able to experience if you were put inside an isolation tank where you could not use any of your five senses. Proper meditation therefore involves this kind of internal consciousness and is the key to creating expanded conscious awareness. I mention it here because proper meditation is not just a way to relax but it must also be a way to expand yourself and your being. Without this final component, meditation just becomes a task and not a way to expand your horizons.

With the above in mind that, there are three ways to meditate properly:

1.  Concentrate your mind on one thing. To do this you could either concentrate on an object in your mind, an object that you see before you, or perhaps a task that you try to do as consciously as possible. You could for example look at an apple on the table in front of you, trying to keep your attention solely on this apple and not letting anything get in the way of this attention. You could also concentrate on an image of an apple that you are holding in your mind. An internal image is a more difficult task since you must be very good at visualization in order to do this, but if you can master this technique, this is a great way to have yourself focus on one thing.
You could also focus your mind on a particular task; many people for example like to concentrate on their breathing and this is a wonderful way to keep your mind focused on one thing. The key to this kind of meditation is to train your attention to focus solely on this one task and to bring your mind back to this task if it decides to wander. Read ” Learn the power of concentration” if you are interested in this method.

2.  You can meditate by concentrating on your body, and by concentrating on the act of relaxing your body. This is sort of like the task that I mentioned above but it does two things; first of course it allows you to focus on one thing to the exclusion of all other things, but secondly it also allows you to relax your body and therefore take your self into a natural trance by becoming deeply relaxed. Read “How to relax” if you are interested in this method.

3. The final method to meditate properly is to try and go into inner space. One of the best and easiest ways to do this is to imagine that you have a dial that controls the volume of your senses. By dialing this volume down you are imaginatively turning down how much you can see, hear, taste, touch, and smell. After turning the volume of your senses down, explore what is left. Explore this reality.

It is up to you to explore what you like best, and which technique you think would provide the best kind of meditation for you. Meditation done properly is in many ways dreaming, it will alter brain chemicals and it will balance your hormonal levels. In this way meditation is a great rest for your body and it allows for certain excess chemicals to be correctly processed so that they do not hinder your natural functions. It also allows you to develop more chemicals in the brain that the waking consciousness needs to function at its best. With a little effort you too can learn to meditate properly and attain new levels of relaxation and awareness.

We all have a natural rhythm. Being able to follow this natural rhythm can make us much happier, and it can allow us to fulfill ourselves in ways that we didn’t think we could. Following your natural rhythm is really a way of being more natural and being kinder to ourselves; by considering ourselves important enough to be able to do what we want to do when we want to do it.

In order to follow your natural rhythm you must begin by asking yourself what you want to do at the moment. You must do something that most people are not used to doing, which is to ask yourself what your desires are at this moment. Most people are not used to doing this because they have become insensitive to their own needs; this happens because many people are so focused on their responsibilities that they have forgotten how to create pleasure for themselves. It is your first task then to try and become more sensitive to your own needs by discovering your desires at every moment.

By trying to satisfy your desires in the moment, you begin to follow your natural rhythm. Most of us are aware of our big desires, we all know that we would like to have more money or that we would like to have a new house, etc. Following your natural rhythm means that you have to be far more aware of your own feelings and therefore your own desires even of the small seemingly insignificant things. In order to become more natural you must become more present in the moment and through careful personal awareness find out what your body is telling you to do. It begins with something as simple as deciding where you want to be; do you want to sit down, do you want to stand up, is there a place that you want to go?

Contemplating such small things as this, will allow yourself to begin to really find out why you do everything in your life. For example most people will sit somewhere or be somewhere because they believed that this is the right thing to do, and not so much because this is what they want to do. We are all restrained by obligation and by what we think others want us to do, or what we think is proper. To truly be yourself you must find out what you truly want to do, not what you think others think you should do. You must do this with all the small things in your life and work your way up, but following your natural rhythm means that you will need to be far more aware of how you feel at every single moment of your life.

Another good way to discover your natural rhythm is just to be able to relax. Being able to relax in the moment and just let go, opens you up to your internal feelings and makes you far more aware. Open up yourself to the awareness at this moment and learn to just relax into it; first by understanding that every moment is special and has its own unique beauty, and by realizing that if you just let things happen naturally, all  will work out perfectly in it’s own way.

If there is something that you need to do, define it. By outlining exactly what it is that you need to do and making it concrete in your mind, you start the process of channeling your energies towards getting this goal accomplished. It is true that natural rhythm is all about spontaneity but natural rhythm also encompasses the ability to plan ahead and to get goals done. Many believe that it is impossible to be spontaneous and still get things done but it is easy to do this if you learn to define your objectives.

In order to get things done and still follow your natural rhythms, begin then by defining and planning your goals to the best of your ability. Now it is possible that you might define a task but that you might not want to do it in the moment. This is quite all right and you should follow this natural desire, true spontaneity is really the ability to decide for yourself, using your internal guidance, what it is that you want to do. If you don’t feel like doing something at the time then don’t do it.

The natural way to do something is to define your goal and then to vividly imagine yourself getting this goal done. If you don’t feel like doing something because it possibly bores you to death to even think of doing it; imagine yourself doing it as vividly as possible. In a very nice and casual way, imagine yourself doing this as often as you want to. Eventually by vividly imagining, you will find something very interesting, and that is that you will actually desire to do the things that you imagined. If you have become very good at being naturally spontaneous, you might find that you just get up for no particular reason and start doing what it is that you wanted to get accomplished.

Accomplishing goals in this way will begin to teach you about how we create our entire reality. You will realize the full power of your thoughts by seeing how they change your personal desires and put them in line with your intended, and vividly imagined, goals.

Following your natural rhythms means learning to do what you desire at every moment. Being your natural self can free you and make you feel incredibly happy because you discovere just how free you are at every moment. Spontaneity means that you can do anything at any time, that you have an incredible amount of freedom at every moment to do whatever you desire.

By vividly imagining your goals instead of trying to push or force yourself to do them, you discover the power of your thoughts to change your reality. In a natural way you accomplish things that in the past might have been difficult, because you grew up with the notion that in order to accomplish anything there needs to be pain and great effort. This effort is of course a lie, and is just a side effect of you not following your natural inclinations and not knowing how to use your mind properly to motivate yourself into action.

Next time that you feel resistance, do not push against it. That part that pushes back is actually a part that is reminding you of your natural self and your natural rhythms. Listen to what this part of you has to say and if it wants you to do something else then consider doing that something else, because this part of you is very wise and is only trying to help you. Feeling a huge amount of resistance means that your natural self trying to tell you that you are doing something that you don’t want to do. The harder that you push against this resistance, the harder that it will be to do anything. To force yourself to do anything is really an egotistical inclination that happens because we think we know better than our natural selves. This inclination is wrong of course. We are not being strong or wise here, what we are really doing is saying that; the world out there has told me that this is so and I trust them more than I trust my natural self.

You can get yourself to naturally do anything you want by using the imaginative technique that I mentioned above. There is no need to create resistance and to feel that you need to push yourself to get the right things done. Learn to follow your natural rhythms and you will greatly decrease the kind of resistance that you feel in life. This will increase your happiness, creativity, health, and competence. Learn to follow your natural rhythms and you will be reborn.






The only way to truly become excellence is to develop your intellect. You must learn to keep your mind occupied and to always give it new things to work on and new ideas to contemplate. Excellence can be achieved by exercising your brain, developing your mind, and always working on expanding your intellect. In this way you will develop new levels of excellence in all your personal endeavors.

There are many forms of excellence, but all have a direct link to your intellect and the kind of level of consciousness that you can bring to anything in your life. Even strictly physical endeavors can benefit from the development of your intelligence because this increased intelligence will allow you to find better ways to achieve better results. Greater intelligence will teach you how to focus your mind better and therefore allow your body to function better.

Always try to keep your brain occupy. Exercise your brain by doing things that tax it capabilities just like you with tax your body’s physical capabilities in order to improve its function. The simplest way to do this is to get yourself a book on mental games which you can do on your spare time. Try to find an exercise that you find fun but at the same time difficult, it is an interesting realization that a game like this will create a regimen of exercise that you can actually feel. You should be able to notice larger amounts of blood rushing your brain, which means that your brain is using more oxygen in order to perform whatever task you are asking of it. Think of your brain as a giant muscle that requires regular doses of exercise, just like every other muscle in your body.

You have a natural desire to want to learn and try new things. It feels good to try new things and learn new things and if you follow your natural inclinations you will see that you will naturally want to exercise that big gray muscle in your head. There are many benefits to exercising your mind and trying to grow your intelligence; you will be able to contemplate new ideas, expand your ability to perceive, find solutions to problems, feel freer and more powerful. If your mind is kept busy trying to learn new things it will not focus on the negativity that you might be finding around you and it will instead focus on solutions not the problems.

Make a list of all the things that you want. Think of all the things that you might want to have in your life and write down this list on paper for your reference. Once you have this list, use your mind and your intellect to try and creatively attaining your desires. Focus your intellect and your creativity on ways to try and fulfill your desires and to bring the things that you have written in this list into your life. Your mind is an incredibly powerful tool and if you start to focus it into the things that you want, you will have a powerful ally the will do everything it can to make all your desires come true.

A good way to try and figure out how to attain your desires and goals is to think about these desires and to work your way backwards so that you can construct a plan that will get you to where you want to go. Using this method and others, focus on your ingenuity. This is a wonderful exercise because it does two things; first it is a great way to start getting the things that you want in life, and second it is a wonderful way to tax your intellect and mind.

In order to become excellent, you must begin to develop your brain, your mind, and therefore your entire intellect. Keeping your mind on an objective, taxing yourself in order to attain your objectives, using creativity and ingenuity, you become more powerful and more yourself. Excellence comes through the development of personal consciousness, expanding your being by becoming more yourself.






Making eye contact when you are interrelating with others is very important. Eye contact is the most important physiological aspect of interrelating with others. In many ways it crosses the boundaries between internal feelings and external actions. The saying goes, “the eyes are the windows to the soul”, and truly they play a key role in how others perceive us and how we perceive them.

It is always very important that you make eye contact when you’re speaking to someone else. There are many rules about how long this eye contact should be, but this is actually a very touchy thing because even experts are not exactly sure about the length of time that you should look at someone in the eye. Most of the studies into this time frame are not broad enough and they tend to only include people in certain areas and of a certain race. It is much better that you learn to feel out for yourself how long it is that you should look straight into the eyes of someone else. These times will always be different depending on who you’re talking to, where you are, and where the person is from. It is much better that you learn to develop a personal feel for this so that you are able to create the kind of results that you want from others.

Eye contact establishes trust, creates dominance, increases mutual empathy, and develops the tone for the interaction. In order to develop the best way to know how and when to look at someone, you must develop an empathic sense, so that you can see or feel what your gaze is doing to the other person. This empathic sense is developed by paying close attention to the other people that you are interrelating with, and by trying to put yourself in their place; trying to imaginatively feel what they must be feeling as they are looking at you. If you take the time to develop this empathic technique, you will soon surprise yourself with how well you can tell what others are thinking and feeling.

Using your own empathic sense, you will know how to develop your eye contact to a very powerful level. There are times when staring is a good thing and it creates the kind of dominance that you want, there are also times when looking away creates just the kind of feeling that you want by making you seem weak. Gazing at others in just the right way makes them feel like you are interested in them, that you care about what they are saying or doing. Eye contact is an incredibly powerful tool and the shades and variations of it are too numerous to put down in a small article. All of these things must be taken into consideration when you ponder the power of eye contact in human interrelation.

If you are interested in developing the power of your gaze in interpersonal relations, I suggest that you read the two following articles:

The Power of the Eye to Persuade


Learn to share your love with others. It is sometimes difficult to tell others how we feel, we tend to think that it is weak to tell others that we love them and that we appreciate them. It is actually a very brave thing to be able to put your heart on the line and to show others your love and appreciation in one way or another. This is so because we think that if we put our emotions out there, we will be putting ourselves in a place where we can be easily hurt.

To share your love for others means that you are willing to give of your affections freely and that you do not expect anything in return. If you are able to give in this way then you will see that there is no way for you to get hurt, whatever you give is given freely without any expectations from the other person. This kind of sharing of love is open and free. If the other person does not reciprocate your feelings or is even hurtful towards you, you are not able to be hurt by them. What you have given is given freely, it is your appreciation for them and the special place they hold in your world. Sharing your love in this way becomes energizing.

No matter how little you think you have in life, you will always have a deep well of inner love that you can share with others. This inner love is interesting because by giving of it you get more in return. As others feel your love and appreciation for them, they will return this love and respect in one form or another. Sharing of this love is a good way to remind yourself that you have a lot to give, and it actually opens you to receive even more from the world yourself.

You do not need to openly state your love in order to share love. There are many ways to show your love of others; you can for example share a funny story or a joke with someone. In this way you cheer the other person up and to make them feel better about whatever situation they are facing. This is a great way to show others your love because it is truly free; you are trying to give them a little energy from yourself by cheering them up with a good story and they can do as they like with your gift.

Sometimes you can share your love with someone else without interacting with them at all. You can do this by saying a silent little prayer for them, sending them positive energy and wishing them well. This positive energy can be of great benefit to someone else and it is a wonderful way for you to share your inner light with others. Never underestimate the power of prayer because it is a wonderful way to give to others and to share from your heart.

Just calling a friend or a family member is a great way to share of yourself. Taking the time to call them and talking to them in person shows your appreciation and love. You could call them just to share a little quote, or a story that you found funny or interesting. Anybody can send an e-mail, and e-mails with a joke or whatever attached to them can eventually even take the feeling of spam. Take the time to actually call someone and share of yourself personally, this is a far better thing for them and a better show of your love.

You can also share your love and appreciation of others by helping them solve problems. This is what we usually think of as giving to others but it doesn’t have to be a grandiose thing. If ever you have an idea that you think would help another with his or her project then why not share it. If you have a way to solve someone’s problem then tell them and in this way show your appreciation and your concern for them.

Some of us are not very wealthy and might not be able to give material things. We are though able to give from our inner light and love. Learn to share your love for others and you will receive far more than you give.