Very few people are aware of themselves. They tend to go about things, trying to change the world and themselves but they forget to pay attention to what they are doing at the moment. Self-awareness is the real key to creating positive change, without this awareness there is only haphazard intention and therefore haphazard effectiveness.
Every single day is made of moments. Every single moment exists like an individual pause where the entire focus of your body, mind, and soul become one. As y...
A Better Way to Self Improvement
Many of us find it very difficult to take criticism. Generally criticism is taken as a direct attack on the self. While it is the case that some criticism is given in order to derail a person, most criticism has the positive benefit of showing you where you are going wrong. Any criticism should be handled with objective detachment that can only come from personal control of the ego.
When you are being criticized, you should analyze the situation carefully and determine if you have acted wisel...
Many believe that they need to control their anger. While it is true that you need to control your emotional responses around people, some tend to believe that controlling your anger means stifling yourself. All emotions should be felt and experienced naturally, if you do not do this you will end up hurting yourself because emotional repression can lead to mental aberrations and even ill health.
For many of us anger is a very powerful emotion. All emotions are energy, energy that is supposed ...
I believe that there are two types of work. There is the work that you have to do and then there’s the work that you personally want to do. With the first kind of work, the kind of work that you have to do, you are essentially made to perform in a certain fashion. For most of us this means a job; we are told when to show up, what to do, how to do it, and when we can stop. If we do not do satisfactory work, we are reprimanded and we are told how to do it properly. The first kind of job i...
We can all be clutter-bugs at times. We all tend to want to hoard things believing that we will eventually need whatever it is that we now have. Many people are also visual in nature, they remember and keep track of things by knowing where they are visually, this means that some of us are not just clutter bugs we also like to spread our mess everywhere. Being a clutter-bug is not necessarily a bad thing, but if it is starting to take over your life then you need to do something about it.
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We all need to learn to listen better. The best way to be able to develop good relationships with others is to be able to listen and pay attention to what they have to say. Listening attentively shows respect and shows that you care about what the other person is saying, that this person is important enough and that what they have to say is worthy of scrutiny.
Many people have huge amounts of difficulty listening to others. It is quite often the case that they do not try to listen to understa...
Truth is very essential thing for all of us. In one way or another we are all searching for truth. It is important to realize though that truth is a relative issue and that even though some would like to tell you that truth is an absolute thing, the reality of the situation is that everything is relative. This does not mean that truth does not exist, what it means is that truth is relative to each individual and that the only truth that you can rely on is your own personal truth.
Discovering ...
Many believe that manners have gone out the window. As we look around it does become somewhat evident that few people treat each other pleasantly anymore. I think that there is a natural relation between the amount of people in any one place and the kind of courtesy that they used to treat each other with. I find it that the more crowded the environment the less likely that people are to be pleasant and to use good manners.
Manners are an incredibly powerful thing. Many write about the fact t...
Personal discipline is important in everything that we do in life. You can come up with the best ideas but these ideas will be forever outside of your realm until you develop the discipline to create them. Discipline is what allows us to take action in areas that we find difficult.
Discipline allows us to become creators, it allows us to bring to life our greatest ideas and vision. While many see discipline is a type of endurance under stress, true discipline is really great personal understa...
Many of us have habits that we would like to stop. Over time we tend to develop habits that we consider to be bad and as we recognize these as hurtful habits, we often commit to stop them. Many find that stopping these negative or bad habits can be very difficult. Always remember though that a habit is really just a routine and a routine can always be replaced by another one.
In order to try and change this old routine, make the decision right now that you are going to change. Do not be halfh...
You need balance. The most important thing that you can devote your time to is balancing your life. This means that you need to examine and prioritize depending on your needs. Balance is the ability to finely tune your time and efforts so that you are getting what you want out of life.
You could picture for example one of those circus performers; he is on a high wire, spinning ten plates on long skinny sticks and balancing a chair on his chin. Most people could identify with this amazing char...
Self-confidence comes easily to some while it is most difficult for others. Self-confidence can really be boiled down to a belief about your personal self. Even though it is the case that external circumstances tend to make self-confidence easy or very difficult, it is personal belief that is the source of all self-confidence. A belief in your own ability and in your own self-worth is imperative.
Self-confidence is not something that many are born with. It is the case then that self-confidenc...
Personal change is a big priority with many people right now. This site for example is devoted to personal change and personal improvement. The underlying belief here is that you need to make a change of one kind or another in order to improve yourself, so here is some information to help you make that change. What you must realize though is that this change that you make must be done for the correct ‘personal’ reasons.
Many for example would have you change the way that you feel, telling you...
We all want to be confident. Confidence is definitely something that is of great help when we are trying to accomplish anything. Confidence is also a state of being that promotes happiness; this is so because confidence speaks of a well-balanced individual that is of strong character. Confidence speaks of a well grounded being that is assured of his or her personal capabilities.
While we tend to see confidence as a general thing, it is important to realize that confidence is not just one part...
Empathy is not just wishy-washy and touchy-feely business. Empathy can actually be a very useful tool that can be used by all people to expand their awareness and their functionality within their own space. Hunters for example could greatly benefit from being able to empathize with their prey. A great hunter must be able to know all the routines of his prey. He must understand his prey implicitly and be able to anticipate future moves. If a hunter could also learn to become one with the envir...
Accomplishing your objectives can either be difficult or easy depending on how you go about it. Most people believe that it is a difficult world where we are all going uphill. With this personal belief any objective becomes very difficult. The reality of the situation though is that most of us do not use our minds properly and instead of using them to motivate us and to ease our tasks, we mostly use them to reinforce our beliefs in a hard life.
Most would tell you that in order to begin any t...
We are all busy bees. Modern life has become so fast and so complicated that it is sometimes hard to keep up with how we are feeling inside. We are also all required to do our duty and these external responsibilities can create great pressure. On top of that, external peer pressure can sometimes be incredibly overwhelming, pushing us to do things that we would not normally do if such pressures were not applied upon us.
In this modern world it has becoming incredibly important that you take ti...
Having wonderful goals that you wish to meet is key to success in life. Many of us are great dreamers and there are many things that we would like to accomplish in this life. Some of us are even good planners and can set up different ways that we want to get these goals accomplish. But the most important thing about having goals is the ability to get started on them and to accomplish them.
In order to be a to get started on your goals, you must develop incredibly good reasons why these goals ...
I remember that as a kid I used to love the poltergeist movies. They scared me silly but I used to love to watch them because I suppose I used to love to be scared. In “poltergeist two” I remember that there was this great character that made a huge impression on me. He was a kindly preacher that did his best to impart great wisdom to all those that he came in contact with. His greatest line, and the line that I believe had the greatest amount of insight was, “you’re all gonna die!”
If ...
We all have a lot of stuff. We all tend to accumulate things as we grow and change, which seems to be a natural consequence of our expansion in the world. We amass things as we grow but we forget to let go of those things that we no longer need. This is unfortunate because things have a way of holding us down.
Continually ask yourself; what can I can let go of? Look around, what do you actually use? Taking the time to always look around at all your stuff and answering honestly the above quest...